1、 Comparison Between Chinese and Western Family Education11390332 左小婷Abstract :The family education is related to a persons life. Nowadays, social development needs high qualified talents and good family education is the key point to the high qualified talents. Because of the different social systems
2、, culture backgrounds, education aims and so on, family education for the children is different in many aspects between China and the western countries. In the education projects of training new century talents in the world, all the countries put family education in a very important position.Key Wor
3、ds:family education; comparison; Western countries; Chinese1. IntroductionEntering twenty-first century, as one of the hottest spot, family education is becoming more and more important in peoples life. Family, as the cell of society, is the first place that children receive education and the first
4、unit that the children get in touch with the society. Education is a highly complicated process which is connected with families, schools and society throughout ones whole life. A modern society, whether it can present its special education function, which is already the base of the power to push th
5、e society and creation of family happiness. In modern society, family education contents become various, it includes not only family life education, family relation education, family morality education, but also children education, parents education and so on. In this paper, I will discuss the educa
6、tion of the children.2.The definition of family educationHarry Chesters Childerss schools and adult college had such a statement on Education: “education is the human for the training and development of its own various ability, including mental ability, intelligence, physical ability“. In the dictio
7、nary definition of family education: parents or to the family of children or young adults of elder education. Different social needs of different family education. “Zheng Qi long in the family education work from another angle of explanation: education is an objective and systematic on the social fu
8、nction of“ education of the next generation of the family education is the parents to educate their children. It is an important part of the whole education system. The changes in the situation, the definition of family education should be extended as follows: family education is not only a family a
9、ctivities, it also relates to the whole society. The family education is not only to learn the family relationships and life skills, but also for each member of the familys physiology and psychology of learning, but also for each member of the comprehensive development of learning. The family educat
10、ion is not only the parents or elders of the family of children and the education of the young, and mutual education among all family members. Family education is not just more lifelong education of preschool education.3.Main problems in todays Chinese family education3.1 Parents mistake in concepti
11、on of value and wrong activities leadingA childs conception of morality and value orientation learns from acquistion, especially from his parents. So parents affect the childs mind greatly.“(i) If parents always say some positive view, such as, Money makes the mare go or Money talks.”4P23 The child
12、may form a conception that people live in order to make money which is a wrong view of value. (ii) Parents sometimes endorse some wrong behaviors, the child may form an idea that those wrong behaviors are right.3.2 Utopian expectation of childrens educationChinese parents produce a great impact on c
13、hildrens future. When a baby born in a Chinese family, his parents often design a future for him, no matter the child likes it or not. That is to say, Chinese parents would enforce their children living under the designed future instead of considering childrens feelings and abilities. “Just as Phier
14、baha says Parents biggest false is they stand in their position and interfere childrens nature development.” In China, we can find the following scenes easily: Parents take their children to various kinds of lessons after school. Children would be punished if they didnt get a good mark in examinatio
15、ns.3.3 Harmful types of family education3.3.1 A utocratic type of family educationIn some Chinese families, parents require their children should do whatever they want their children do. If the children didnt do as their order, they will scold the children, even worse, they will punish the children.
16、 “A questionnaire of 300 students in a middle school shows: Ninety percent of the students had been punished!” They cant bear that children didt obey them. They restrict their children. They check their childrens cellphone. 3.3.2 Indulgent type of family educationParents love is very important for t
17、he psychology development of teenagers. However, in modern China, a child is probably the only child in a family, and parents give too much love to the child. It leads to a situation that the child cant live without their parents. They seldom run into troubles because their parents had already solve
18、d the problem for them before they meet the problem. This kind of children cant get along with other people very well. They consider themselves as the most important ones. Even worse, they may not have enough independent ability to live in the society without their parents help. When they go to soci
19、ety, they will feel depressed. “In a investigation of 4000 youth criminals, 16.3% of them receive this kind of family education. ” 3.3.3 Careless type of family educationIt usually refers to parents who lack of responsibility to take care of their children. Young parents are working hard to make mon
20、ey. They dont have enough time to get along with their children. According to a survey, the children whose parents are individual entrepreneur, taxi driver or labor contractor, break the law easily. The main reason is the parents mentioned above, who have few time at home. Even they are at home, the
21、y seldom put their hearts on their children. They simply think if they provides a good living condition for their children, who will become a talent. This type of family education is dangerous. Childrens thought is not mature enough to judge all the things in a right way. It is easy for children to
22、choose the wrong way to go.3.3.4 Changeable type of family educationThe children had been influenced greatly by this type of family education. For parents, the way to present this kind of education is self-contradictory. In other words, one parent is severe, another indulgent. Or the same behavior,
23、is allowed today, but is forbidden tomorrow. A great number of research proved that childrens behaviors have a close connection with the changeable type of family education when they are young.4.Main problems in todays western family education4.1 Indulgent type of family educationDifferent from Chin
24、ese family education, Ameirican indulgent type of family education had more harmful effection. Because over indulgent, it made a lot of social problems.Such as, teenage crime. In radio or TV, we sometimes can get a information that a 15-year-old boy shot his friend in the middle school. 4.2 Lack of
25、communicationAmerican think that every member in a family, he or she should had his or her own space. In their opinions, they cant interfere each other even they are in a family. And when a person is 18 years old, he may leave his parents. It means his has little time to stay with their parents. So
26、they has less resbosibility to their parents. But, in Chinese peopleeyes, its no a good idea to leave their parents. It may lose the chances to communicate with each other.4.3 Pay too much attention on happy learningAmerican take happy learning serious. But, in fact, happy learning is good when chil
27、dren are young. Only pay attention to happy, parents may find that childrens learning levels are declined. For example, some students who get used to happy learning, cant calculate without calculator. 5.The comparison of the two5.1.the value of family educationChinese families care about the reputat
28、ion in educating the child.The educations goal is for making their living, for honor.Western countrieseducation is not the preparation for making their living, but for survival,emphasizing “the learned education.”5.2.Education methodChina emphasize mechanical memorizing.If the book is read hundreds
29、of times, its meaning is shown naturally.Western countries emphasize the childs “power of understanding.”Seeking the knowledge from life and nature.5.3.Emotional education and PunishmentChina emphasizes “reserve”.Such characters as “no”, “cannot”, “wont do”, “do not ”appear repeatedly.One can not be
30、come a useful person without being beaten. The club helps the child to be loyal son.Western countries use the encouraging language.Pay great attention to individual quality and the emotional communication.The punishment also offends the law.5.4.Education in managing moneyChinese think earning money
31、to support ones family and managing the wealth are adults matter.Try every means to satisfy the children with the money.Western parents teach the child to make plans for budget items, learn to spend money reasonably.Encourage the child to work outside to gain income by themselves.5.5.Different educa
32、tional purposesIn china educations aim is to train the child into a talent, who has a bright future. A bright future means to get a good job and to lead a simple life all their life time. In western educations aims are to train the child into a social man, who can deal with all kinds of events and o
33、wn independent ability. It is not a high expectation. “Social man” is not an utopia idea, but a requirement which is practical and easy to achieve 6ConclusionAmerican famous writer John Brasal said in his best seller Family May Hurt You When a person grow up, all his behaviors are determined by the
34、family environment when he was a child. Every child grows up under his parents family education, what kind a person will be, depends on what kind of family education he received. Childrens character and destiny are connected closely to family education. For the family, for the children, for the pare
35、nts, we should change the wrong conception of family education and correct it at once. All in all, there are many differences between China and Western family education and each has its strong points and weak points. We should reject the dross and absorb the cream of them, advance the family educational modernization.Bibliography1 叶立群 . 家庭教育学 M 福建教育出版社 , 1995 2骆 风 . 21 世纪 90 年代以来我国家庭教育研究进展述评 J. 教育理论与实践 2005, 第 5 期 3 管晓静 . 当今家庭教育存在的主要问题 J. 山西高等学校社会科学学报 2005, 7 4 李 盈 . 美国家庭教育的启示 J. 当代教育论坛5 孙琼如 . 中美家庭教育的比较与启示 J. 教书育人 2002, 76 赵 燕 . 不同背景下的中美家庭教育的比较 J. 北京教育 ( 普教版 ), 2005, 5
