1、“HOW TO WRITE A LOVE LETTER”INTRODUCTION - This format may have at least Seven Uses:This format is useful for deeply exploring and clarifying your feelings (and their origins) that you have about someone or something, and/or facilitating deeper communications with another, by writing one or more “Lo
2、ve Letters.“ Note that this is for strictly personal therapeutic purposes, not for writing letters intended for sending to another person. However, from doing this exercise, (1) clarity may be greatly facilitated which can greatly assist you in writing the most appropriate letter to another. This me
3、thod can (2) fill a special need for therapeutic dialog with someone who is currently not present. It is (3) also valuable for/during various strictly personal therapeutic processes, for simply journaling, including self-dialog between two or more parts of yourself that represent mixed feelings abou
4、t something. Other benefits include introduction to and practice in four more valuable self-healing techniques: (4) “Self-Parenting,“ as well as (5) constructing practical, emotionally integrative affirmations, (6) making decisions about your intention and direction for healing change, and (7) verba
5、lizing those decisions to etch them into ones being. The latter initiates the completion of the unmet important need(s) of the inner-child(ren), and will often manifest changes in related physical symptoms (ie: less pain). 8) Also included are simple guidelines to create (positive momentum galvanizi
6、ng) affirmations out of the statements that were developed through the above noted steps.In the case of therapeutic dialog with someone who is currently not reachable or communicable, you would then imagine the persona of, say, a deceased parent or a former significant other who will/can not communi
7、cate. Or you can “practice” communications with someone who is not currently in touch, or safely so, but someone who might need to be contacted in the future. In this case, as in the 2nd type of letter above, you write one or more letters for each party that you involve. For strictly personal therap
8、eutic processes, you write one or more letters simply to explore what feelings would come up. When conflicted by mixed feelings, apply these as follows. a) Feel out the aspect/part/sub-personality of you that wants to go in one particular direction or have one particular thing, etc. b) Write from th
9、at part of yourself only. c) Take on the feelings of the other part that wants something else, and then d) Write from that part of you. In essence then, from each part with the unsettled feeling(s), you write to the other parts of you about your feelings, and then you write the response to that with
10、 the words that you spontaneously imagine the other part(s) to say, and so on. These can be kept in your journal or burned in a releasing ceremony as one chooses. You may likely find the first few drafts (if any, actually) not suitable for giving to the intended one, but quite illuminating as well a
11、s cleansing for you. In fact, the most therapeutic expressions should probably never be heard by anyone but yourself and your therapist or *co-counseling* partner, or by a trusted friend who has agreed to merely act as a sounding board.This introduction and sections 6 thru 12 are not in the original
12、 “Love Letter“ format as I received it in a seminar in 1988 Original author unknown, but were added by this author for introduction and practice in “Self-Parenting“ and in construction of affirmations customized to your own challenges.- Chris Pringer, 97,01, 07, 08: LoveLetterRev5b.doc“The Love Lett
13、er” Steps:Essentially, you begin by expressing your anger, resentment and blame, and allow yourself to move through the other levels until you get to love. If you find you need to revise an earlier sections writing while engaged in a later section, that is good, just do it!1. ANGER AND BLAME I dont
14、like it when .I resent .I hate it when .Im fed up with .Im tired of .2. HURT AND SADNESS I feel sad when .I feel hurt because .I feel awful because .I feel disappointed because .3. FEAR AND INSECURITYI feel afraid .Im afraid that .I feel scared because .I dont understand .4. GUILT AND RESPONSIBILITY
15、Im sorry that .Im sorry for .Please forgive me for .I didnt mean to .5. LOVE, FORGIVENESS, UNDERSTANDING myself for.I want .6. What Id really like to hear you say in RESPONSE to what I have said here: In response to #1 I want to hear you say In response to #2 I want to hear you say In response to #3
16、 I want to hear you say In response to #4 I want to hear you say In response to #5 I want to hear you say 7. What Ive decided for myself (to be and do) in RESPONSE to what I have said here: In response to #1 Ive decided for myself that In response to #2 Ive decided for myself that In response to #3
17、Ive decided for myself that In response to #4 Ive decided for myself that In response to #5 Ive decided for myself that In response to #6 Ive decided for myself that 8. What Ive decided to tell myself, my inner child(5 or more brief summary statements that feel good, based on #6 above; in 1st person
18、, address your inner child by name):In response to #1 Ive decided to tell my inner child In response to #2 Ive decided to tell my inner child In response to #3 Ive decided to tell my inner child In response to #4 Ive decided to tell my inner child In response to #5 Ive decided to tell my inner child
19、 In response to #6 Ive decided to tell my inner child 9. Turn each of these 5 or more statements into affirmations with the following guidelines: a) maintain present tense, b) use no negatives (ie: not, never, no, cant, wont, dont, wouldnt, without, etc) and c) instead, use statements such as “safel
20、y letting go of,“ “safely releasing,“ “safely release all judgment regarding,“ etc.10. Now, in a safe place, say these statements (from sections 6, 7, and 8) aloud to yourself - in the first person tense, and addressing your inner child by name.Note: Id recommend your not skipping steps until after
21、youve done the whole set (#1-9) a few times.11. Edit your affirmations as you feel appropriate over time, especially after repeating the above exercises (#1-9, some or all). 12. Very likely, the very best way to edit your affirmations is through the exercise, “Using Affirmations to Uncover and Trans
22、form Negative Beliefs and Attitudes“ by Douglas Bloch. This is available via http:/ REGULATIONS/POLICY 2) in The Basic Hows And Whys Of Psycho-Emotional Storage In The Body-Mind, and in the related fascia memory storage dynamics - referring to the technical aspects of neuro-physical interface betwee
23、n connective tissue, emotion, and the brain);3) “Chalice-Bridging“ style chakra balancing - based in the perspective that the chalice, far more than just a cup in this interpretation, is about the human embodiment of Spirit into the three “lower bodies“ (mental, emotional, and physical) which compos
24、e the “Body-Mind“. Which is also a “cauldron“ for the balancing and integrating of Humanity with the Divine - individually and communally.My training includes over 1370 hours of classes and practicum, including with the New Mexico Academy of Massage and Advanced Healing Arts in Santa Fe, NM (1984-85
25、), and with various accredited bodywork and therapy workshops (86-present), as well as 100 hours training with the Alchemical Hypnotherapy Institute (1989), over 100+ hrs apprenticeship with healing practitioner Robert “Mitra“ (85-86), and 150 hours apprenticeship with Silena Heron in Herbal Studies
26、 (83-84). For the detailed version my training, you may go to the latter half of my Reiki Therapy Practice Brochure. Which also includes (and relates context for) links to essays elaborating on aspects of imbalance and injury, assessment, and healing.Home Page for Body-Mind Integration: http:/ IF YO
27、U WANT TO FEEL BETTER, WRITE A LOVE LETTER!REMEMBER: IF YOU WANT TO FEEL BETTER, WRITE A LOVE LETTER!Some Body-Mind Quotes From Chris BODY-MIND AWARENESS, at the core of preventive health awareness, is one of the most simple, efficacious, & cost-effective forms of HEALTH INSURANCE there can be. Henc
28、e, massage is far from just “a luxury item,“ and bodywork therapies can be indispensable for the healing of certain conditions.MUSCLES RELATE TO ATTACHMENTS - to what we use to take our stance, to hold our place, to perceive and respond to our environment, and to extend who we are and/or want to be.
29、 Or used to be (in too many cases, perhaps). That speaks not only to the bodys condition and function, but to how it communicates awareness of where one is along ones path (of becoming who one truly is).THE BODY IS . . . among other amazing things, a unique communications system intimately linked wi
30、th ones TOTALITY. Establishing rapport with ones body can be a PATH to self realization.ONE OF MY DREAMS is a society where/in all children are taught how to feel/see/read their own body-mind communications such that preventive health maintenanceeventually becomes second nature. And actually, for the most part, they would be encouraged to re-awaken and build upon what I believe to be a NATURAL INCLINATION conscious self-healing and continuous expansion of awareness.
