1、1英语演讲稿情 LoveEver since the dawning of the history of mankind, there have been myriads of diversifed inventions, discoveries, and even explorations of the mysteries of the universe. In fact, the human beings are so intelligent that we have solved almost all kinds of problems we have confronted with .
2、 However, nobody has ever made out what the word “love” really connotes, not even the most famous people such as great politicians, saints and philosophers can clarify the meaning of “love”, neither can they deal with the various affairs concerning love. Love is like a huge boundless net that shroud
3、s us all in. We can neither break away from it nor escape from it. Like it or not, we are always entangled in it. It is an invisible net without any form, that shrouds in different people from different angels; It is a merciless net that upsets us or even tortures us to death. It is also a supreme n
4、et which almost no human can surpass. Even if 2they are heroes, emperors, wise men or saints, they can do nothing but show their helplessness in its face. Those who can breathe through the holes of the net should be regarded beyond commonness and vulgarity. Love can bring us temporary comfort and ha
5、ppiness, but mostly they bring about annoyance and sufferings. Maybe this is the reason why many people have seen through the illusions of the mortal world. However it is not so easy to break away from this boundless, ever-existing and indifferent net of love. Love is varied and changeable, but roug
6、hly it can be divided into three categories: family love, fraternal love and amatory love. Not like Monkey King who jumped out of the rocks, we were all born after mothers pregnancy of about nine months, hence we have countless relatives without any choice: parents, grand-parents, and grand-parents-
7、in-law, uncles and aunties, brothers and sisters, etc. and once looking at the genealogical tree, well see no end. Family love is what everyone longs for, but the warmth and support from our beloved ones are what everyone yearns for the most. But how many of us are determined to contribute to our be
8、loved one? And how many dont expect repayment and relaxed. conscience even if they have the desire and 3preparation to contribute to their beloved. The distance between relatives is different and so are their expectations. But since its very difficult to know how much we should expect, a lot of worr
9、ies and distresses emerge. Parents always expect their children to show their filial obedience, or at least pay them frequent visits after they have got married. If the children fail to do this, they feel hurt and upset, and theyll even complain about their children, because they just cant understan
10、d why their children dont care about them after what they have done for the children for so many years to bring them up. Nevertheless, ones experience determines his ideology. Young children are naturally attached to their parents, but when they grow up, specially when they have made their own frien
11、ds, and got married, what they need most is independence and freedom, and parents sometimes might become their burden. Once there is generation gap, it becomes more difficult to communicate and this keeps them away from their parents. Objectively speaking, they need more independence in order to ach
12、ieve success. In the present society, what the children want to have most is the economic support from their parents, not their moral 4support or guidance. They would complain if your economic support is not up to their expectations. The love from uncles and aunties would naturally dwindle after the
13、y have had their own children. Only the love from grand-parents and grand parents-in-law is pure and demands no repayment, and they are also too old to wait for any repayment. As for the distant relatives, their love depends on their needs, just as the old saying goes “The poor have no friends even
14、if they live in downtown while the rich have distant relatives even if they live in deep mountains”. Granny Liu, a distant kinsfolk, in A Dream of the Red Mansions , claims kinship with the wealthy Jia family, thinking that she may benefit from it in some ways. Liu might have run away without any tr
15、aces if the Jia family had been a poor one. Another saying goes “Close neighbors are better than distant relatives.” The most difficult is to manage the relatives when doing business together, just as what the TV series program Liu Laogen discloses. It is all right to stay poor together, but as soon
16、 as the business grows prosperous, the group will become estranged and even dissolve because of the unfair distribution. Family love is like a maze which we shouldnt go too far into it, otherwise, well surely get lost. Love is a 5bilateral matter and unilateral love can only lead you to nowhere in s
17、pite of your good intentions. Family love is, sometimes, like an arranged marriage, leaving no choices to you. Due to the different experiences and tastes, staying together temporarily can be entertaining, while living together for a long time can only be boring due to the lack of common interest an
18、d understanding. How can we communicate with each other without understanding? Parents have the duty to support the children who are not yet economically independent, and children have the responsibility to provide for the elderly parents who are lack of economic abilities to support themselves. Exc
19、ept these two kinds of duties which we must fulfill, other kinds of love become conventional formalities such as paying visit to the sick or the dead and giving presents to the newly-born etc No love among relatives has become a normal phenomenon which neednt to be fussed about. Whats worse is when
20、love is contaminated by money. Sooner or later we will get hurt. The sooner we get out of this net of love, the more we can preserve beautiful memories. We are not living in vacuum, and the society is formed of various kinds of people. As long as we want to live, study, or 6work, we have to contact,
21、 communicate and cooperate with others. Those who enjoy common interests, mutual understanding, common undertakings and common benefits become friends.Some friends are called fair-weather friends, because they are together just for entertaining themselves by eating, drinking, and gossiping. Once the
22、res nothing to eat and drink, their friendship is finished. Some are spiritual friends who share common ambitions, pursuits and education. “They enjoy talking and laughing with the great talents and never make friends with the good-for-nothings”. The best examples would be Yu Boya and Zhong ziqi of
23、the ancient times who are famous not only for their lofty music but mainly for their lofty characters and mutual understanding and appreciation. They cared very little about material wealth, so their friendship is known as “gentlemens friendship as pure as water”. The third type of friendship belong
24、 to those who show their utter devotion to each other. They are ready not only to share weal and woe but also to die for each other, like the three brothers Liu, Guan and Zhang in the novel Romance of the Three Kingdoms. . We all wish to have this kind of friendship, but its of great 7difficulty for
25、 the ordinary people to be as devoted as they were. Fraternal love or friendship is wide-ranged and flexible. Generally speaking, everyone is our friend, just as Chairman Mao says “Our friends are all over the world”. But transcend age, sex, nationality, state and economic conditions. To them the mo
26、st important is common benefit, common interest and understanding. Friendship is formed during the course of studying, working and fighting. The battle companions who have survived many hazards usually enjoy long-lasting friendship. However, fraternal love is not stable. Being away for too a long ti
27、me, losing all common benefits, friends will become estranged. Once their interest has changed, they no longer understand each other, and even this would harm friendship. At all times and in all countries, many close friends and battle companions who once worked together and fought together became e
28、nemies in the end. Quiet a few of the emperors in ancient China even killed those who had helped them found their dynasties. The Taiping Heavenly Kingdom would not have failed if it hadnt been for the contending and massacring among the those who first rose in rebellion 8at the beginning of the upri
29、sing. What else we need to pay attention to is that some friends, after being away from each other for too long a time, have lost so much of their original characters that when meeting again, you will feel that you are still the same as you were, while they are no longer themselves. They may have th
30、e same feeling about you, so sometimes its better not to meet each other again. As the Chinese proverb goes “friendship can not last for three years and flowers can not stay in blossom for three months”. Its not so easy to maintain real friendship which needs mutual understanding, tolerance and sacr
31、ifice. Any kinds of harsh treatment will damage friendship. Amatory love has been a mystery for ages. Theres neither a criterion to judge nor a common rule to follow. Nobody can tell the exact reasons why love emerges. It is not always because of beauty (the ugly doorkeeper Quasimodo in The Hunchbac
32、k of Notre Dame is loved by the beautiful Gypsy girl Esmeralda), nor kindness (Hitler also has his mistress), nor wisdom ( even the blockhead may sometimes marry a beautiful girl), nor strength (some love starts from sympathy). True love is like getting an electric shock, shaking our soul. It is a s
33、weet dream, a kind of intoxication, 9indulgence, and endless passion. True love doesnt need a long time to grow up, to make clear the family tree of the other, neither does it needs the time to look ahead and behind again and again. Love is not marriage, which usually starts from love, but doesnt al
34、ways depend on love to maintain. Long-lasting marriage can eventually turn into a kind of family love, a kind of companionship which preserves the companion but loses the passion. Love is often an wink of the eye, or a smile that hints mutual understanding. In spite of the great distance between the
35、m, people may fall in love incidentally. Hence the saying “a distant marriage is tied up with a mysterious thread”. Love needs passion, and it can stand bumps and stumbles, ups and downs, complaints and blames. When it turns into a pool of water, especially dead water, without any billows or waves,
36、its time for it to die. Delicacies are tasty, but eating everyday can still make one lose appetite. Happiness is what everyone longs for, but too much happiness can spoil people who may not care about the happiness they already have. Its universal to live in happiness without knowing it. The same is
37、 true with love. Very few people can love the same person passionately all 10their lives. All love stories come to an end no matter how beautiful they are, which also demonstrate the changeability of love. What one has been chasing wildly may turn into something one wants to get rid of desperately i
38、n the end. Besides, love is usually blind, especially those who fall in love at the first sight. At the very beginning, both try to demonstrate their beautiful side and cover up their Weakness. Fooled by the mysterious color of love, one often mistakes the weaknesses as merits. However, as time pass
39、es by, frequent contacts make one bored, and even merits become defects, and then the end of love is coming. Whats more, there are the capricious men and women who never take love seriously, leaving the devoted ones suffering alone. The saying that the devoted is always abandoned by the heartless ha
40、s almost become the truth of love affairs. What we cant neglect is that love may turn into hatred, and lovers may also become enemies. The best proof is the numerous divorces. Even though true love is hard to find nowadays, we still can see some true and infatuated boys and girls who readily give up
41、 their families, their parents, their studies, their careers and even their lives for love. They love so 11passionately, crazily and wildly that they hate anyone who is against their love, and may even harm or kill him if he insists on his objection.Love has magical power that can exploit peoples po
42、tential abilities, bring peoples positive factors into full play, and provide people with the courage to face trials and hardships, to go through life and death, and even to risk universal condemnation. Even in the ancient feudal society, some people were courageous enough to carry on clandestine lo
43、ve affairs. The examples in point were the courageous ones who dared to love the concubines of the emperors or the children of their foes. Love also has miraculous power which can startle the universe and move the gods by attracting the heavenly celestials coming down to earth ( The Love Story of th
44、e Cowboy and the Weaving Girl ), and by turning ghosts into human ( Strange Tales of Liao-zhai ). Love can transcend age and generation (Dr. Sun Yat-sen and Madam Song Qingling; Luxun and Xu Guangping). love can show contempt for all conventions and prejudices; love can heal wounds and cure diseases
45、, and love can readjust peoples state of mind. Of course, the result would be the opposite once it hurts. 12Great men yearn for true love even more than ordinary people. Since the ancient times, so many heroes couldnt help falling into the trap of love that the sex-trap has been regarded as one of t
46、he 36 stratagems in military tactics. Fuchai, the king of the Wu State, couldnt be spared of this trap, and Generals Dongzhuo and Lubu fell deeply into it while Xiangyu, the King of the Western Chu State , bid farewell to his beloved concubine in tears. People may have to pay very high price, even t
47、heir illustrious name for the love they long for even though it may last for only a very short time. Nonetheless no one can tear himself away from love. People often say that their earthly affinity is not yet finished, but in fact it is the love affinity that is the most difficult to finish. Love is
48、 shapeless and priceless. We can blame nobody when captured by it. Love can not be forced, nor can it be pretended. Sympathy is not love, neither is gratitude. Love must be generated from the heart, and expressed in actions. It can not be called love without passions and a deep longing from the bott
49、om of the heart. Theres no impassable gulf between family love and fraternal love. Some family love may turn into friendship. At the same time, natural barriers 13doesnt exist either between fraternal love and amatory love. Some friendship may develop into amatory love. The same is true with amatory love which may change into family love after a long time of mutual grinding and polishing.The closer the relationship, and the higher the expectations are, the more difficult it is to get along with each other. Family love, fraternal love and amatory love are three
