1、1Unit 4 MarriagePart APre-listening TaskQuestions for Discussion1. What do you think of marriage? Do you think a happy marriage is the most important thing in your life?2. What kind of person do you want to marry? What are your standards in choosing a life companion?3. What do you think is crucial f
2、or a happy marriage?4. What usually causes troubles in a marriage?5. Do you think differences between husband and wife are unavoidable? If you do, could you suggest some ways for them to deal with the problem?6. Have you heard of marriage agreements? Do you think a couple should sign a marriage agre
3、ement before getting married?Additional Question for DiscussionDo young men and young women have the same standards in choosing a spouse? If not, why not?Language FocusHere are some sentences and structures that you may find useful in discussing the above questions. Both men and women consider marri
4、age a very important part of their lives. Most men would like their spouses to be young and beautiful. Others consider inner beauty more important. When a woman chooses her spouse, she often puts emphasis on his character / temperament / education / profession / income / appearance / family backgrou
5、nd. Some young women today consider of great importance in choosing a boyfriend / life companion. Happiness in marriage does not depend on material wealth. Marriages based on mutual love create a happy and harmonious atmosphere in the family. Mutual respect and understanding between husband and wife
6、 contribute much to a happy marriage. Education is an important condition for a good marriage because a couple whose educational levels do not match may not have much to say to each other / have constant arguments over family issues, big or small. A marriage based on romantic love alone will not nec
7、essarily last long, for a sense of responsibility is also essential to a successful marriage. I would marry someone who loves me and cares for me most. I would marry someone who is generous / intelligent / ambitious / broad-minded / considerate / good-looking / kind-hearted / humorous. I wouldnt lik
8、e to marry someone who is too money-conscious / stingy / selfish / hot-tempered / narrow-minded / rude / impolite / possessive.2 Each individual is unique and differences between husband and wife are therefore unavoidable / a rule rather than an exception. Its very important for husband and wife to
9、show appreciation of each other / talk and get to know what his or her partner expects. A marriage agreement sounds too practical / lacks romantic flavor / reduces marriage to mere business. I think a written marriage agreement shows how much you and your partner are going to respect each others nee
10、ds and expectations / promises a harmonious relationship in married life. Trouble starts in a marriage when one partner keeps complaining about small things, making the other feel resentful. Constantly criticizing your partner and his or her family gives rise to troubles in / may destroy a marriage.
11、 Lack of understanding / tolerance over differences may bring troubles to a marriage / cause a marriage to fail.Part BListening TasksConversation 1A Marriage Agreement (Part One)Word Bankoutline v. to describe briefly with few details 概述spouse n. a husband or wife 配偶pet a. denoting a thing that one
12、feels particularly strongly about 格外的，极其的peeve n. sth. that annoys you 惹人生气的事物bug v. (American slang) to annoy, to irritate 激怒article n. a section of a legal agreement that deals with a particular point 协议的条款pet peeve sth. that you strongly dislike because it always annoys you 格外惹人生气的事Script:(Tom an
13、d Linda have signed a marriage agreement. Both agree not to break the rules outlined in the agreement. John, a reporter, is talking to them about the agreement.)John: Tom, Linda, first Id like to ask you why you decided to write this unusual agreement.Tom: We found that many problems are caused when
14、 a person has different expectations from his or her spouse. We wanted to talk about everything openly and honestly before we started living together.Linda: Also we both know how important it is to respect each others pet peeves. Like, I can get very annoyed if others leave stuff clothing, papers, e
15、verything! lying around on the floor. It really bugged me, so we put that in the agreement. John: This is mentioned in Article 1: Cleaning Up, isnt it? It says, “Nothing will be left on the floor overnight. Everything must be cleaned up and put away before going to bed.”Tom: Then Ill know clearly wh
16、at Lindas expectations are.3John: I see. What about Article 2: Sleeping? It says, “We will go to bed at 11 p.m. and get up at 6:30 a.m. except on weekends.” Im sure some people hearing this will think that this agreement isnt very romantic.Tom: Well, we disagree. We think its very romantic. This agr
17、eement shows that we sat down and talked, and really tried to understand the other person. A lot of problems occur in a marriage when people dont talk about what they want.Linda: Thats right. When we disagreed about something, we worked out a solution that was good for both of us. I would much rathe
18、r have Tom really listen to me and understand my needs than give me a bunch of flowers or a box of candy.Exercise 1Listen to the conversation and choose the right answers to the questions you hear.1. Which statement best summarizes the marriage agreement between Tom and Linda?a. It is a set of rules
19、 that will restrict their personal freedom to a certain extent.b. It is a set of rules that will enable them to live up to each others expectations.c. It is a set of rules that will prevent them from getting a divorce.d. It is a set of rules that will save their marriage.2. According to Tom, what wi
20、ll give rise to problems in a marriage?a. Different interests.b. Different pet peeves.c. Different expectations.d. Different sleeping habits.3. What can be inferred about Linda from the conversation?a. She is sensible and well-organized.b. She doesnt like flowers or candy very much.c. She is too pra
21、ctical to be a good wife.d. She is quick-tempered and domineering.Exercise 2Listen to the conversation again and complete the answers to the following questions.1. Why did Tom and Linda decide to sign the agreement?Because they wanted to understand each others expectations so that potential problems
22、 could be avoided and they could live happily together.2. What is Article 1 about?Cleaning up. Everything must be cleaned up and put away before going to bed.3. What is Article 2 about?Sleeping. Time for bed: 11 p.m.; time to get up: 6:30 a.m. except on weekends.Conversation 2A Marriage Agreement (P
23、art Two)Word Bankupdate v. to make sth. up-to-date 更新make it up to become friends again after a quarrel 争吵后和解figure out to work out the solution to a problem 想出4Script:John: Linda, do you spend a lot of time checking to see if the other person is following the rules? Arguing?Linda: No, not at all.To
24、m: A lot of couples argue because they dont understand each others expectations. I think we spend less time arguing than most couples because we both know what the other person expects.John: What happens if one of you breaks a rule?Tom: Well, thats in Article 13 of our agreement. John: Is it? Oh yes
25、, Article 13: Breaking Rules. “If you break a rule, you must apologize and do something nice for the other person to make it up.”Linda: Yeah, like last time Tom broke the rule of driving.John: Whats the rule?Linda: The rule is we must ask for directions if we are driving and get lost for more than f
26、ive minutes. John: What happened? Tom: We were driving to a friends wedding, and we got lost. Linda wanted to stop at a gas station to ask for directions, but I thought I could figure it out. Linda: Then we drove forty miles in the wrong direction and ended up being late for the wedding.Tom: So I to
27、ok her out to dinner. I knew what I should do to apologize. John: Thats very important, I think, knowing how to apologize. By the way, do you plan to update your agreement at all? What if things change in your life and a rule doesnt work anymore?Linda: Weve thought about that too. Article 14 states
28、that we must review this agreement once a year and make necessary changes.John: Well, it was really nice talking to you both. Thank you very much for your time. Tom & Linda: Thank you. Exercise 1Listen to the conversation and choose the right answers to the questions you hear.1. How many articles ar
29、e probably in Tom and Lindas marriage agreement?a. 12.b. 13.c. 14. d. 15.2. How do Tom and Linda feel about their marriage agreement?a. Linda is not very happy with some of the articles in the agreement.b. Tom thinks some of the articles in the agreement are too strict.c. Both Tom and Linda are sati
30、sfied with it.d. Both Tom and Linda are not satisfied with it and they want to make a lot of changes to it.3. What will happen to their marriage agreement in a years time?a. They will review the articles and make changes to update them.b. They will sit down and write out a new agreement.5c. They wil
31、l not make any changes to the agreement.d. They will not need it anymore, as they are both familiar with its contents.Exercise 2Listen to the conversation again and complete the answers to the following questions.1.What is stated in the rule of driving?It is stated that if they get lost for more tha
32、n five minutes when they are driving, they must stop and ask for directions.2. What is Article 13 about? What does it say?Article 13 is about breaking rules. The article says, “If you break a rule, you must apologize and do something nice for the other person to make it up.”3. What is Article 14 abo
33、ut? What is stated in the agreement?It is about reviewing the contents of the agreement. It states that they must review this agreement once a year and make necessary changes.Speaking TasksPair WorkDebating Arguments for or against giving first priority to economic status in choosing a spouseA Sampl
34、eNowadays, some young people give first priority to economic status in choosing a spouse. Are you for or against this standard in choosing a spouse? Express and defend your views from the perspectives given in the card below.Topic: Is it right to give first priority to economic status in choosing a
35、spouse?Perspectives:1. From the perspective of a student (positive)2. From the perspective of a social worker (negative)Possible Arguments (for reference)From the perspective of a student (positive)I think it is very natural for people to give first priority to economic status in choosing a spouse.
36、We all know how important money is. Without money, we can hardly do anything. Lack of money in a marriage will cause problems to the couple. Even though the couple may have married for love, being always hard-pressed for money, love will soon be replaced by quarrels and endless worries over money ma
37、tters. If this happens, can they live happily together? So I think it is very important to first consider if your future spouse is able to share the responsibility of supporting a family. If not, just wait.From the perspective of a social worker (negative)6Nowadays, some young people consider econom
38、ic status the most important factor when they choose a spouse. They think money can bring everything they want, like a big apartment, a car, or a trip abroad. However, can these material things really ensure happiness? I dont think so. A marriage based solely on material wealth will not necessarily
39、be a happy one. Countless examples have shown that rich people often have unsuccessful marriages. A happy marriage is built on a deep love and affection between husband and wife, which cannot be bought by money.Now use the above sample as your model and carry on similar activities with your partner.
40、Topic: Is it right to give first priority to a university degree in choosing a spouse?Perspectives: 1. From the perspective of some students (positive)2. From the perspective of some other students (negative)Some Ideas for ReferenceThe Argument (positive)1. A university degree is the first thing Id
41、consider when I choose my life companion. I think two people with very different educational backgrounds would have problems in communication.2. A person with a university degree has been exposed to a wide range of knowledge / is well-educated.3. What great pleasure it is to spend your life with som
42、eone who can share your enjoyment of music, art and literature, or discuss with you all sorts of subjects from the beauty of nature to aliens in outer space / new advances in science and technology.4. A well-educated person tends to be more cultured, and more understanding, which will ensure happine
43、ss in a marriage.5. A well-educated person is more likely to have a good career.6. A university degree is almost a must in the competitive job market nowadays. Therefore a good educational background is key to a successful career, which will bring harmony and security to family life.The Counter-argu
44、ment (negative)1. I dont think a university degree is so important in choosing ones life companion. Personality is the first thing I would take into consideration when I choose a spouse.2. To my mind, affection, honesty, generosity, kindness, sympathy, and courage are the qualities I value more.3. I
45、 think a persons moral virtue is very important and it is not decided by the amount of school education he or she has received. 4. A university degree does not necessarily bring happiness to a marriage. Mutual affection and understanding are key to a happy marriage.5. A person with a university degr
46、ee is not necessarily well-educated. It depends on how much effort she or he made while at college.76. I believe in love / love at first sight. Id like to marry the person I love, and together we can pursue the dreams of our life.7. I dont think a university degree can ensure success in a career. Ex
47、perience is sometimes more important than formal education. As a matter of fact, many entrepreneurs in China havent even received secondary education. Their success actually relies on their unusual personality and opportunities available.Part CTest Your ListeningA ConversationListen to the conversat
48、ion and choose the right answers to the questions you hear.1. Which of the following is true of the womans husband?a. He doesnt share housework at home.b. He doesnt know how to put things in order.c. He doesnt care for his wife and children.d. Hes lazy and rude.2. What do you know about the woman?a.
49、 Shes just got a job.b. She earns a lot of money.c. She does most of the housework at home.d. She has bad relations with her husband.3. What does the man think of the womans complaints?a. He thinks the womans husband is lazy and messy.b. He doesnt want to pass judgment on the womans husband.c. He thinks the woman complains too much.d. He thinks the woman should ask her husband to share the housework.Script:M: Ah, come in, Barbara. Take a seat. How have things been?W: Oh, much the same. I s
