1、Further Development,Writing Model & Practice,Extraction & Application,Interactive Reading,Warming-up Activities,Warming-up Activities,Background Information,John Gray and his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1/2),John Gray (1951- ) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer, pop ps
2、ychologist, and author. John is a leading internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. For more than 35 years, he has conducted public and private seminars for thousands of participants. John entertains and inspires audiences with practical communication techni
3、ques. His mission is for men and women to understand and respect each other and work together.,Word Study,Video Watching,Jotter,Background Information,John Gray is the author of over 20 books. His books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages around the world. In 1992 he published
4、 the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. It is reported to be one of the best-selling self-help books of all time, and has become a long-term best-seller and formed the central theme of all his subsequent books and career activities. The book has become a practical guide to solve problems
5、in relationships based on the different tendencies in each gender.,Word Study,Video Watching,Jotter,John Gray and his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (2/2),验证,Topic?,男子气的,masculine,猛拍打水(v.),splash,压抑的,restrained,倾向,tendency,完好的,intact,迟疑的,backward,恐惧,panic,精致的,elaborate,诚实的,honest,戏剧,dr
6、ama,谨慎的,deliberate,直率的,transparent,叙事,narrative,优雅的,feminine,自发的,spontaneous,不可避免的,inevitable,善解人意的,sensitive,陡然的,abrupt,一连串,sequence,亲密的,intimate,僵硬的,rigid,追忆/退却,retreat,有吸引力的,magnetic,男性,MALE,女性,FEMALE,Topic-centered Study of New Words,Background,Video Watching,Jotter,Comparison of Emotion,EVIDENC
7、E,It was her habit to keep silence, unless she made a _ effort to break it. His_ from reality points to his lack of interest or confidence in life. The honest want others to be _ with them as they do with others. There is no _ in taste between frozen and fresh fish. As she is _ about putting on weig
8、ht, it is unwise of you to mention it.,deliberate,retreat,available,comparison,Fill in the Blanks with the Correct Words,Background,Video Watching,Jotter,sensitive,He had maintained a far from _ diet, only to shed few pounds. Despite his misfortunes, his faith and optimism remained _. After throwing
9、 a lot of verbal bouquets at him, it was _that she wanted to be reconciled with him.Rather than bow to the _, she chose to have her fate in her hands.It is ideal for a government to make its operations as _ as possible.,rigid,intact,evident,inevitable,Fill in the Blanks with the Correct Words,Backgr
10、ound,Video Watching,Jotter,transparent,Video Watching,key,key,Topic I: What do you value most in friendship?,Topic II: Do you treat your male friends and female friends in different ways? And why?,click here,Background,Word Study,Jotter,Friendship is one of lifes greatest treasures. What I value mos
11、t in friendship is that no matter what happens, if you lose contact and reconnect, or if there are a lot of changes going on in your individual lives, the relationship stays the same. You can always count on that person, and you enjoy one anothers company. He or she will always stand by you, and def
12、end you. This is probably the most reciprocated of all the friendship ideals: watch their back and they all watch yours.,Discussion What do you value most in friendship?,Background,Word Study,Jotter, Yes, I treat them differently. As fate chooses your relations, so do you choose your friends. Male c
13、reatures are comparatively more independent and carefree. But women tend to rely on their friends emotionally. They are sensitive and sentimental. So whenever I get together with my guy friends, we enjoy taking part in activities, and doing things together, such as climbing mountains, working out a
14、special idea and carrying it out. On the contrast, I share my deepest feelings with my female friends, and give each other emotional support. We rely on each other and help each other when it is necessary.,Discussion Do you treat your male friends and female friends in different ways? And why?,Backg
15、round,Word Study,Jotter,On the other hand, generally speaking women and men have different interests. The topics when friends get together talking about are different with women and men. With women, when we come across, the main topics we will talk about are shopping, clothes, fashion and which film
16、 will be on, while with men we will often talk about the sports, games, news and something that we are doing recently. Perhaps for women, talking something about the scenes in the last film or just rethink it will give them a great satisfaction, but for men, maybe something about NBA games is more i
17、nteresting and can bring them more passion.,Discussion Do you treat your male friends and female friends in different ways? And why?,Background,Word Study,Jotter, No, for me, there are no gender differences in friendship. Men and women are equal in every facet of social life. You have one hand, I ha
18、ve one hand. Put them together, we have each other. I have many same-sex friends and also opposite-sex friends, and we often contact to each other, and we often do a lot of things together, such as eating outside together, playing balls together, singing at KTV together, and talking about the future
19、. We are together just like the same sex friends, and we dont feel the difference except the gender, and we almost share everything and we keep no secrets from each other. We care about and respect each other, and enjoy spending time together.,Discussion Do you treat your male friends and female fri
20、ends in different ways? And why?,Background,Word Study,Jotter,Interactive Reading of Text,Q. If you were asked to write on the same topic, how would you present the differences in your communication styles with your male and female friends and discuss the underlying reasons for such differences?,Gen
21、der variables in friendship: Contradiction or not?,Interactive Reading of Text,Now lets make a detailed analysis of the text through dynamic interaction:,Summary,Jotter,How to interpret the title?,Meaning beyond words: The author finds that his friendship is gender-based when dealing with his male f
22、riends and female friends. That is, he treats his male friends and female friends in different ways. So, he wonders whether his behavior is normal whether the phenomenon is reasonable. The question mark in the title is meant to attract the readers attention. This makes the reader expect to find the
23、answer in the passage.,Interactive Reading,Gender variables in friendship: Contradiction or not?,Summary,Jotter,Part I Introduction (Para. 1?),Part I (Para. 1) What are the differences in the authors memory between his female and male friends?,The images of his female friends are open and intimate.
24、They love to share feelings with each other through words.,The friendship with his male friends is like an action or adventure movie: they do adventurous things together instead of chatting and sharing feelings with each other.,Interactive Reading,Gender variables in friendship: Contradiction or not
25、?,Summary,Jotter,Meaning: When I think about my good friends in the past, I remember them almost like I am watching a movie.,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Summary,Jotter,Whats the meaning of the sentence “When I think of people who were my good friends, I see
26、 them in cinematic terms.”? (Para. 1),Meaning beyond words: Here the author means his memories about his female friends and male friends are entirely different just like movies filmed in totally different ways. The author uses a metaphor to make his explanation clear and vivid.,Removal of Barriers t
27、o Our Reading,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Summary,Jotter,How to interpret the sentence “The camerawork is entirely different for men and women”? (Para. 1),Meaning: We are talking with each other, and we show interest in each other with a feeling of strong attraction.,Removal of Barriers to O
28、ur Reading,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Summary,Jotter,What is the meaning of the sentence “We are talking, interested in each other in a magnetic sort of way.”? (Para. 1),Meaning beyond words: The author means that he and his male friends do a lot of things together, but they do not talk muc
29、h with each other. By saying this, the author shows how different his way of dealing with male friends is from that of dealing with female friends.,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Summary,Jotter,How to interpret the sentences “An action or adventure movie! Not
30、much in the way of dialog.”? (Para. 1),In Paragraphs 2 and 3, the author describes his imaginary adventure with Donald, his earliest childhood friend in Europe, to demonstrate that the authors friendship with men is built on actions rather than through words. What is their imaginary adventure?,Part
31、II Illustration (Para. 2?),Part II Illustration (Para. 2-4) How does the author illustrate the differences as mentioned in Part I?,Interactive Reading,Summary,Jotter,They enjoyed the game of sitting in an abandoned German truck, imagining how they “flew” across Europe, across the Atlantic, on a miss
32、ion of mercy. They pretended that they tried to save each other from sharks after they plunged into the sea because of an engine failure. They were attached to each other and felt secure with each other. But they never told each other about their own feelings.,Interactive Reading,Summary,Jotter,In P
33、ara. 4, the author depicts his experiences and friendship with Jessica, one of his best friends these days. And how does he make it?,One day, when they were swimming, they thought they were at the risk of being attacked by a shark. The author slowed down in order to protect and save Jessica. Althoug
34、h the “shark” proved to be imaginary, they realized their deep emotional feelings for each other. When they got ashore, Jessica and the author said “I love you” to each other.,Interactive Reading,Summary,Jotter,Main idea of Part II?,Part II, from Paragraph 2 to Paragraph 4, provides two examples to
35、illustrate how differently the author interacts with his male friends and his female friends, as confirmed in his experiences during which he finds it harder to express his feelings through words to Donald than to Jessica.,Interactive Reading,Summary,Jotter,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary
36、,Jotter,What is the meaning of the sentence “We were innocent and inseparable, the deep security that comes between best friends.”? (Para. 2),Meaning: We were simple and couldnt be separated from each other, and this is the kind of secure relationship that only best friends could have.,Removal of ba
37、rriers to our reading:,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary,Jotter,What is the meaning of the sentence “Naturally, not one word of our evident feelings for one another was ever uttered; it was all done in actions.”? (Para. 2),Meaning: It was obvious that we had deep feelings for each other, bu
38、t we never expressed how we felt about each other. Rather, we expressed that feeling through doing things together.,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary,Jotter,Why does the author describe his interaction with Donald in great detail? (Para. 3),Meaning beyond
39、 words: Through describing their childhood game in detail, the author shows how their friendship develops through actions instead of words.,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary,Jotter,What is the meaning of the sentence “Water is not only a good conductor of
40、 electricity but of panic as well.”? (Para. 4),Meaning: Just as electric currents travel easily in water, the feeling of fear spreads quickly as well from one person to another in water.,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary,Jotter,How to interpret the senten
41、ces “In the end, the shark proved to be imaginary. But not my deep emotional feelings for my friend.”? (Para. 4),Meaning: Finally, we found there was no shark at all; we only imagined we had seen one. But the deep emotional feelings I had for my friend Jessica were not imagined; they were sincere.,R
42、emoval of barriers to our reading:,Part III Conclusion (Para. 5-6),As shown in Paragraph 5, the author finds it natural to express his feelings for his female friends, but meanwhile he finds it hard to express his deep feelings for his male friends. He is puzzled by the differences and determined to
43、 find out why.,Interactive Reading,Summary,Jotter,What insight does the author get from his interaction with female and male friends? (Para. 5),Interactive Reading,Summary,Jotter,What are the causes of such differences? (Para. 6),According to experts, as shown in Paragraph 6, men and women have very
44、 different emotional and rational processes: Men tend to be more reserved while women tend to be more open. So, it is normal for the author to treat his male friends and female friends in different ways.,Meaning: As I spoke, I realized that I communicated in a different way with men than when I with
45、 women.,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,What is the meaning of the sentence “As I spoke, I realized just how gender-based my communication styles were.”? (Para. 5),Summary,Jotter,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Meaning: Was I the only person that had the difficulty expressing my feelings to m
46、y male friends or did every man in the world have the same problem? Did I behave in this way because I was slow and not good at expressing my emotions or because I was a man? I made up my mind to find out the truth.,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary,Jotter,How to interpret the sentences “Wa
47、s this just me or was every male in the world similarly cursed? Was I emotionally backward or just a guy? I was determined to find out!”? (Para. 5),Removal of barriers to our reading:,Meaning: The reason lies partly in biological differences between men and women and partly in the different ways in
48、which they are brought up.,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,What is the meaning of the sentence “Part of it is nature and part is nurture.”? (Para. 6),Summary,Jotter,Removal of barriers to our reading:,Removal of Barriers to Our Reading,Summary,Jotter,Meaning: Ever since we were born, we are likel
49、y to behave in very different ways due to different genes, and society encourages us to behave in different ways: Males are encouraged to behave in ways typical of men while females are encouraged to behave in ways typical of women.,What is the meaning of the sentence “We are born with very different genetic tendencies which society encourages as either masculine or feminine.”? (Para. 6),
