1、Unit 1：cyberspace ：if you dont love it ,leave it something in the American psyche loves new frontiers. We hanker after wide-open spaces ;we like to explore ;we like to make rules but refuse to follow them .But in this age its hard to find a place where you can go and be yourself without worrying abo
2、ut he neighbours .There is such a place : cyberspace . Formerly a playground for computer fans ,cyberspace . Formely a playground for computer fans ,cyberspace now embraces every conceivable constituency : school lchildren , flirtatious ,singles ,dirty pictures behind their bedroom doors provoke a c
3、rackdown ?The first order of business is to grasp what cyberspace is . It might help to leave beind metaphors 隐喻 of highways and frontiers and to think instead of real estate . Real estate ,remember ,is an intellectual ,legal ,artificial environment constructed on top of land. Real estate recognizes
4、 the difference between parkland and shopping mall ,between red-light zone and school district ,between church ,state and drugstore .in the same way , you could think of cyberspace as a giant and unbounded world of virtual real estate .Some property is privatedly owned and rented out ; other propert
5、y is common land ; some places are suitable for children , and others are best avoided by all citizens . Unfortunately ,its those places that are now capturing the popular imagination ,plaecs that offer bombmaking instructions ,pornography, advice on how to steal credit cards .They make cyberspace s
6、ound like a nasty place . Good citizens jump to a conclusion : Better regulate it .But before using regulations to counter indecency ,it is fundamental to interpret the nature of cyberspace . Cyberspace isnt a frontier where wicked people can grab unsuspecting children ,nor is it a giant television
7、system that can beam offensive messages at unwilling viewers . In this kind of real estate ,users have to choose where thy visit ,what they see ,what they do .Its optiona .In other words,cyberspace is a voluntary destination -in reality ,many destinations .You dont just get “onto the Net“ ;you have
8、to go someplace in particular . That means that people can choose where to go and what to see .Yes , community standards should be enforced ,but those standards set by cyberspace communities themselves ,not by the courts or by politicians in Washington .what makes cyberspace so alluring is precisely
9、 the way in which its different from shopping malls , television ,highways and other terrestrial jurisdictions.But lets define the territor: First ,there are private e-malil conversations ,similar to the conversations you have over the teleophone .These are private and consensualand require no regul
10、ation at all .Second , there are information and entertainment services , wehre people can download anytihing from legal texts and lists of “great new restaurants “ to game software or dirty pictures . These places are like bookstores ,malls and movie houses -places whre you go to buy something .The
11、 customer needs to request an item or sign up for a subscription; stuff (especially pornography ) is not sent out to people who dont ask for it .Some of these services are free or included as part of a broader service like ComputerServe or America Online ; others charge may and may bill their custom
12、ers directly .Third ,there are “real“ communities -groups of people who communicate among themselves . In real-estate terms ,theyre like bars or restaurants or bathhouses . Each active participate contributes to a general conversation ,generally through posted messages . Other participant may simply
13、 listen or watch Some services are supervised by a moderator ; others are more like bulletin boards -anyone is free to post anything .Many of these services started out unmoderated but are now imposing rules to keep out unwanted advertising ,extraneous discussions or increasingly rude participants .
14、cyberspace communitis evolve just the way terrestrial ommunities do : people with like-minded interests band together . Every cyberspace community has its own character . Overall , the communities on CompuServe tend t be more professsional ; those on AmericaOnline , affluent young singles ;Prodigy f
15、amily-oriented itself there are lots of passionate non-commercial discussion groups on topics ranging from Hungarian politics (hungary Online ) copyright law .whats unique about cyberspace is that it allows communities of any size and kind to flourish ; in cyberspace ,communities are chosen by the u
16、sers , not forced on them by accidents of geography . This freedom gives the rules that precise in cyberspace a moral authority that rules in terrestrial environments dont have . Most people are stuck in the country of their birth, but if you dont like the rules of a given cyberspace community ,they
17、 can restrict their childrens access to it .whats likely to happen in cyberspace is the formation of new communities ,free of the constraits that cause conflict on earth . Instead of a global village ,which is a nice dream but impossible to manage , well hae invented another world of self-contained
18、communities that cater to their own members inclinations without interfering with anyoneelses The possibility of a real market-style evolution of governance is at hand .In cyberpace ,well be able to test and evolve rules governing wht needs to be governed -intellectual property ,content and access c
19、ontrol , rules about privacy and free speech .Some communities will allow anyone in ;others will restrict access to members who qualify on one basis or another .Those communites that prove self-sustaining will prosper (and perhaps grow and split into subsets wiht ever-more-particular interests and i
20、dentities ) Those that cant survive -either because people lose interest or get scared off -will simply wither away .in the near future ,explorers in cyberspace will need to get better at defining and identifying their communities . they will need to put in place -and accept -their own local governm
21、ents apart from terrestrial governments ,just as the owners of expensive real estatet often have their own security guards though they can call in the police to get ride of undesirable customers . then what shoul be done about undesirable material in cyberspace ? What to do ,for instance ,about porn
22、ography . The answer is labeling ,besides banning ,questionable material .it makes sense for cyberspace participants themselves to agree on a scheme for uestionable items ,so that people or automatic filters can avoid them . Its easy enough for software manufacturers to build an automatioc filter th
23、at would prevent you or your child from ever seeing the undesired item on a menu . (its as if all the items were wrapped , with labels on the wrapper.)Someone who posted pornographic material under the title “Kid-Fun“ could be sued for mislabeling .Without a lot of fanfare , private enterprises and
24、local groups are already producing a variety of labeling services ,along with kid-oriented sites like Kidlink and Kids Space .People differ in their tastes and values and can find services on the Net that suit them in the same way they select books and magazines . Or they can wonder freely if they p
25、refer , making up their own itinerary .In the end , our society needs to grow up . Growing up means understanding thtat there are no perfect answers , no all-purpose solutions , no government sanctioned safe havens .We havent created a perfect society on earth , and we wont have one in cyberspace ei
26、ther . But at least we can have individual choice and individual responsibility . Unit 2 WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR MEN AND WOMEN TO TALK I was addressing a small gathering in a suburban Virginia living room - a womens group that had invited men to join them. Throughout the evening, one man had been part
27、icularly talkative, frequently offering ideas and anecdotes,while his wife sat silently beside him on the couch. Toward to end of the evening, I commented that women frequently complain that their husbands do not talk to them. This man quickly concurred. He gestured toward his wife and said, “She is
28、 the talker in our family.“ The room burst into laughter; the man looked puzzled and hurt. “It is true,“ he explained. “When I come home from work I have nothing to say. If she did not keep the conversation going, we would spend the whole evening in silence.“This episode crystallizes the irony that
29、although American men tend to talk more than women in public situations, they often talk less at home. And this pattern is wreaking havoc with marriage.Sociologist Catherine Kohier Riessman, who reported in her new book Divorce Talk that most of the women she interviewed - but only a few of the men
30、- give the lack of communication as the reason for their divorces.In my own research, complaints from women about their husbands most often focused not on tangible inequities such as having give up the chance for a career to accompany a husband to his, or doing far more than their share of daily lif
31、e. Instead, they focused on communication:“He does not listen to me,“ “He does not talk to me.“ I found that most wives want their husbands to be, first and foremost, conversational partners, but few husbands share this expectation of their wives.In short, the image that represents the current crisi
32、s is the stereotypical cartoon scene of a man sitting at the breakfast table with a newspaper held up in front of his face, while a woman glares at the back of it, wanting to talk.Linguistic Battle Between Men and WomenHow can women and men have such different impressions of communication in marriag
33、e? Why is there a widespread imbalance in their interests and expectations?In the April 1990 issue of American Psychologist, Stanford Universitys Eleanor Maccoby reports the results of her own and others research showing that childrens development is most influenced by the social structure of peer i
34、nteraction. Boys and girls tend to play with children of their own gender, and their sex-separate groups have different organizational structures and interactive norms.I believe that systematic differences in childhood socialization make talk between women and men like cross-cultural communication.
35、My research on mens and womens conversations uncovered patterns similar to those described for childrens groups.For women, as for girls, intimacy is the fabric of the relationships, and talk is the thread from which is woven. Little girls create and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets; simila
36、rly, women regard conversation as the cornerstone of friendship. So a woman expects her husband to be a new and improved version of a best friend. What is important is not the individual subjects that are discussed but the sense of closeness, of a life shared, that emerges when people tell their tho
37、ughts, feelings, and impressions.Bonds between boys can be as intense as girls, but they are based less on taking more on doing things together. Since they do not assume talk is the cement that binds a relationship, men do not know what kind of talk women want, and they do not miss it when it is not
38、 there.Boys groups are larger, more inclusive, and more hierarchical, so boys must struggle to avoid the subordinate position in the group. This may play a role in womens complaints on men do not listen to them.Often when women tell men,“You are not listening,“ and the men protest “I am“, the men ar
39、e right. The impression of not listening results from misalignments in the mechanics conversation. This misalignments begins as soon as a man and a woman take physical position. When I studied videotapes made by psychologist Bruce Dorval of children and adults talking to their same-sex best friends,
40、 I found at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly, their eyes anchored on each others faces. At every age, the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other. But the tendency of men to face away can give women the im
41、pression they are not listening even when they are. A young woman in college was frustrated: whenever she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arms over his face. This signaled to her, “He is taking a nap.“ But he insisted he was l
42、istening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying.Switching topics is another habit that gives women the impression men are not listening, especially if they switch to a topic about them
43、selves. The girls in my study tended to talk at length about one topic, but boys tended to jump from topic to topic.My study of the 10th-grade children found that when a girl told a friend about a problem, the friend responded by asking probing questions and expression agreement and understanding. B
44、ut the boys dismissed each others problems. Todd assured Richard that his drinking was “no big problem“. And when Todd said he felt left out, Richard responded,“Why should you? You know more people than me.“Women perceived such responses as belittling and unsupportive. But boys seemed satisfied with
45、 them. Whereas women reassured each other by implying, “You should not feel bad because I have had similar experiences,“ men do so by implying, “You should not feel bad because your problems are not so bad.“There are even simpler reasons for womens impression that men do not listen. Linguist Lynette
46、 Hirschman found that women make more listener-noise, such as “mhm“, “uhuh“, and “yeah“, to show “I am with you“. Men, she found, more often give silent attention. Women who expect a stream of listener-noise interpret silent attention as no attention at all.Womens conversational habits are as frustr
47、ating to men as mens are to women. Men who expect silent attention interpret a stream of listener-noise as overreaction or impatience. Also, when women talk to each other in a close, comfortable setting, they often overlap, finish each others sentences and anticipate what the other is about to say.
48、This practice, which I call “participatory listenership“, is often perceived by men as interruption, intrusion and lack of attention.A parallel difference caused a man to complain about his wife, “She just want to talk about her own point of view. If I show her another view, she gets mad at me.“ Whe
49、n most women talk to each other, they assume a conversationalists job is to express agreement and support. But many men see their conversational duty as pointing out the other side of an argument. This is heard as disloyalty by women, and refusal to offer the requisite support. It is not that women do not want to see other points of view, but that they prefer them phrased as suggestions and inquires rather than as direct challenges.The Sounds of SilenceThese differences begin to clarify why women and men have such different expectation
