1、Man are from Mars,Woman are from Venus,About the Author,Beginning in 1995 with his groundbreaking Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, the New York Times number one best-selling book of the last decade, Gray launched a Mars-Venus book series that changed the way men and women will forever view r
2、elationships. In the fifteen years since, John Gray has sold over 50 million books in more than 45 languages throughout the world. To quote Wikipedia, “You must be from another planet if you have not heard of John Gray and his Mars Venus Universe.“,Theme,Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, an e
3、normously popular book by author John Gray, contains many suggestions for improving relationships between men and women through understanding the communication style and emotional needs of the opposite sex. As suggested by the title, the book asserts the notion that men and women are as different as
4、 beings from other planets, and that learning the code of conduct of the opposite sex is of essential value even if individuals do not necessarily conform to the stereotypical behaviour.,John Gray, PhD, is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. The aut
5、hor of fifteen books, he has been conducting personal-growth seminars for more than thirty years and writes “Mars Venus Advice,“ a weekly syndicated column that has appeared in more than one hundred media outlets, including Newsday, the Los Angeles Times, and the Detroit Free Press. He also has a we
6、ekly Internet broadcast with over two million listeners at Gray has been a contributing editor at Redbook and a contributor to , Brides, and Divorce magazines. He lives with his wife and three children in Northern California.,About the Author,Man are from mars, woman are from venus,Imagine that men
7、are from Mars and women from Venus.One day,long ago,the Martians,looking into their telescopes,discovered the Venusians.Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feeling they had never known.,They fell in love and quidkly invented space travel and flew to Venus. The love between the Venusians and Martia
8、ns was magical. They delighted in being together, doing things together and sharing together.Though from different worlds, thy reveled in their differences.For years they lived together in love and harmony.,Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. B
9、ut the effects of Earths atmosphere took hold, and one morning everyone woke up with a kind of amnesia. Both Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets.,Since that day men and women have been in conflict,chapter1: different values,A mans sense of self is defined through his
10、ability to achieve results.A womans sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.,Chapter2 The differences how they cope with stress. #one of the biggest differences men and women is how they cope with stress.,To feel better martians go to their caves to solve p
11、roblems alone. To feel better venusians get together and openly talk about their problems.,How to support a man in his cave,1 dont disapprove of his need for withdrawing. Dont try to nurture him by asking questions about his feelings. Dont try to help him solve his problem by offering solutions. Don
12、t sit next to the door of the cave and wait for him to come out. Dont worry about him pr feel sorry for him. Do something that makes you happy.,Chapter 3 speaking different languages,The martian and Venusian languages had the same words, but the way they were used gave different meanings. The follow
13、ing section contains Venusian/Martian Phrase Dictionary. Each of the complaints listed above is translated so that a man can understand woman real and intended meaning. Each translation also contains a hint of how she wants him to respond.,The venusian/martian phrase dictionary,After using this dict
14、ionary for a few years, a man doesnt need to pick it up each time he feels blamed or criticized, and a woman will feel truly heard and loved.,Chapter 4 men are like rubber bands, women are like waves,When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.,A womans self
15、-esteem rises and falls like a wave. When she hits bottom it is a time for emotional housecleaning.,Chapter 5 scoring points with the opposite sex,When a woman keeps score, no matter how big or small a gift of love is, it scores one point; each gift has equal value.A man thinks he scores high with a
16、 woman when he does something very big for her, like buying her a new car or taking her on a vacation. He assumes he scores less when he does something small, like opening the car door, buying her a flower, or giving her a hug.,Chapter 6 Discovering out different emotional needs,The primary love nee
17、ds of women and men,Here are the different kinds of love listed side by side:,Women need to receive Caring Understanding Respect Devotion Validation Reassurance,Men need to receive Trust Acceptance Appreciation Admiration Approval encouragement,comments,I feel like that it has been quite some time t
18、hat novel and books are not part of the fun of my life. Restart to read, decision from today. Happen to notice this book . Seems to be a book about marriage, but one, as either male or female, can locate him/herself from some of the words. I cannt keep laughing when some plots so have happened before in my life. In one word, its an observational book, with good life tips provided.,三克油 ！,
