1、Looking back at my younger years, I am sometimes amazed at how life has turned out. Nothing is exactly what I had originally planned for. The only thing that stays the same is who I am, my values, and my interests. If I could go back in time and hang out with my younger self for a day, heres what I
2、would tell her.回首年轻的时候，有时我会惊讶于生活的变迁。一切都不是我最初计划的样子，唯一不变的是我自己、我的价值观和我的兴趣。如果我能回到过去和年轻时的自己漫步一整天，下面就是我要对自己说的。1. Everything happens for a reason.一切事情都有原因。Without mistakes and failure, you would never have learned. Without pain, you would never have grown. Once you understand this，you will know that everyt
3、hing comes in to serve a purpose. So dont stress or think that life is unfair, because everything happens for a reason. And only time will tell what it will teach us.要是没有错误和失败 ，你就不会学到东西；要是没有痛苦，你就不会长大。一旦你明白了这些，你就知道了一切事情都是为了某种目的而发生。所以不要紧张或者认为生活不公平，因为一切事情都有原因，只有时间能诉说教会了我们什么。2. Focus on one thing at a t
4、ime. You can have it all but not all at once.一次只关注一件事。你将会拥 有一切，但不能一次就全部实现。It is not surprising that many of us are doing too many things at once. We need to make ends meet. But if you are working three jobs at a time, it is not likely that you will succeed at any of them. You have to keep your eyes
5、on the big picture. You have to ask yourself what exactly do you want to achieve for the next 10 years? Focus on one thing at a time. Achieve your goals one by one.我们中有很多人会同时做超多事情，这并不奇怪，我们需要养家糊口。但如果你同时做 3 份工作，每份工作你都不可能做好。你要着眼于大局，问问自己未来10 年究竟想要达到什么目标。一次只做一件事，让目标一个接一个实现。3. You can plan ahead, but your
6、 plan will definitely change when the time comes.你可以提前 计划，但计划没有变化快。You can plan ahead because sometimes planning ahead can give you a clearer direction of where you want to go. However, plans will almost always change, so be prepared!你可以提前做好计划，因为有时提前做计划能让你更加明确自己前进的方向。然而计划总是会变，所以你要有心理准备！4. Trust your
7、 instincts.相信自己的直觉。Dont worry too much about a decision you have to make. Just do what feels right. You know what you want. You might consult other people. But deep down, you know what you want. Do what makes you happy. Because at the end of the day, even if you follow logic, you will want to quit a
8、nd follow your heart.做决定时不要过于担心，就做你认为对的事，你知道自己想要什么。你可能要咨询他人，但内心深处你知道自己想要什么。做让你开心的事，因为到最后，即使你的决定符合逻辑也会想放弃，然后追随你的心。5. Its okay to be unsure about your purpose in life.生活目标不明确也没关系。You might be graduating or have hit a turning point with your career. You might feel a bit lost and unsure of where to go.
9、Its okay. Go out there and try as many different things as you can. Dont ever feel like youre wasting your time. Enjoy the journey. Dont rush. Every little path will lead you somewhere. And looking back, you will be able to connect the dots. It will all make sense.你可能正面临毕业或事业遇到转折点，你可能会感觉有点迷失、找不到方向，没
10、关系，走出去尽可能多尝试不同的事情。不要觉着自己是在浪费时间。享受过程，不要着急，每条路都会把你带向远方。回首时你就能把点点滴滴联系在一起，发现一切都有意义。6. Dont try too hard with people.与人交往不能强求。Dont worry if you feel like its hard to make new friends. Just be yourself and be as open as you can. It might take a while until you find new best friends and a mate for life, bu
11、t when you do, you will know it. Its not hard work. So, just do your thing and be yourself.如果你感觉很难交到新朋友也不必担心，只要做好你自己、尽可能真诚就可以。可能需要一段时间你才能找到新的最好的朋友和终生伴侣，但当你找到了你就知道，这一点也不难。所以你要做好自己的事、做好你自己。7. Take of leap of faith in yourself.提高自信。Youve got nothing to lose but everything to gain. If you fail, youll be
12、come smarter; If you succeed, youll gain even more self-confidence and the emotional and financial rewards. See life as a progressive journey. And youll most certainly achieve anything you set your mind to.你没什么可失去的，但你可以赢得一切。如果你失败了，你会变得更精明；如果你成功了，你会获得更多自信以及精神和金钱上的回报。把生活看成一个发展的过程，才最有可能做成你一心想做的事Crushin
13、g is , and sometimes when the of your is giving you a mixed bag of confusing signals, its hard to know when to throw in the towel and move on, or hang in there and see if their hot and cold behavior begins to . To assist in shedding some light on your current situation, take a peek at theses 12 sign
14、s youre crushing on the wrong person.暗恋是很辛苦的，有 时候，你心仪的人给 你的回应是一系列模棱两可的信号，你很难知道到底应该放弃、还是更进一步 、还是维持现状来观察他们的忽冷忽热是不是要开始变成爱的火花。以下这 12 种迹象表明你爱错人了，为了帮你弄清楚自己的现况，一起看一下吧 。 Being single doesnt have to be a bad thing - in fact, for some people, its even better than being paired up, with researchers finding that
15、 single life can impart a whole lot of benefits that marriage doesnt.单身并不是一件坏事事实上，对一些人来说，比结婚更好，研究者发现单身生活能带来太多婚姻无法给予的好处。Psychologist Bella DePaulo, pointed to evidence that single people can have richer, more meaningful lives than their married counterparts.心理学家蓓拉迪波洛指出相关证据，表明单身的人比结婚后拥有更丰富更有意义 的生活。“Th
16、e preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude,“ said DePaulo, from the University of California, Santa Barbara.“长时间思考孤独的危害会模糊掉独处带来的深切益处， ”来自加州大学圣巴巴拉分校的迪波洛说道。“It is time for a more accurate portrayal of single people and single life - one that recognises
17、the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful.“是时候给单身的人和单身生活一个更精准的描述了一个认识到单身人真正的力量和适应力，以及是什么让他们的生活如此有意义的描述。 ”One study cited by DePaulo showed that people who are single are often closer to their parents, siblings, friends, neighbours, and co-wo
18、rkers. Another study showed they had a heightened sense of self-determination, and demonstrated continued growth and development as an adult.迪波洛引用的 一份研究表明单身的人往往和他们的父母、兄弟姐妹、朋友、邻居和同事更亲近。另一项研究表明他们有更高的自主能力，而且能够展现出作为成年人的持续性成长和自我提高。“There is no one blueprint for the good life,“ she said. “What matters is
19、not what everyone else is doing or what other people think we should be doing, but whether we can find the places, the spaces and the people that fit who we really are and allow us to live our best lives.“好的生活不只有一幅蓝图， ”她说。 “要紧的不是其他人在做什么或者其他人认为我们应该做什么，而是我们是否可以找到真正适合我们的地方、空间和人，能够让我们过最好的生活。 ”“People wh
20、o marry get access to more than 1,000 federal benefits and protections, many of them financial,“ DePaulo said of single people living in the US. “Considering all of the financial and cultural advantages people get just because they are married, it becomes even more striking that single people are do
21、ing as well as they are.“已婚人士可以 获得超过 1000 项联邦福利和保护，许多都是和财政相关的，”迪波洛 谈 及生活在美国的 单身人说道。 “考虑到所有仅仅因为结婚就能获得财政和文化特权，单身的人依然故我就变得越来越受关注。 ”Most didnt even look at single people in their own right, using them to instead investigate marriage. “Only a very small number of the studies were motivated by a desire to
22、 learn anything about single people. Typically, single people were the comparison group in studies designed to elucidate something about marriage,” she said. 大多数文章甚至不把单身群体独立看待，而是用他们来调查婚姻。 “只有非常少数的研究是被想了解单身群体的渴望所驱动。很有代表性的是，单身群体在阐释婚姻相关事实的研究中是对比群体， ”她说。Further research is needed to help cut through the
23、 stereotypes, and theres no denying that DePaulo is biased when it comes to the advantages of single life “Always have been, always will be,” she told Ian Johnston at The Independent. But the limited evidence so far shows that being single in no way means you cant lead a fulfilling life.要打破固有的刻板印象需要
24、 进行进一步的研究，而且要承认迪波洛在谈及单身生活的好处时是有倾向性的。“一直都是，永远会是， ”她告诉独立报的伊恩约翰斯顿。但是目前有限的证据表示单身绝不意味着你无法有一个满足的生活。Its 2016 do whatever makes you happy.现在是 2016 年做任何让你快乐的事The perfect student.ASKS QUESTIONS.好学生会积极提问Most teachers want students to ask questions when they do not understand a concept that is being taught. Goo
25、d students arent afraid to ask questions because they know that if they do not get a particular concept, it could hurt them later. Asking questions is often beneficial to the class as a whole because chances are if you have that question, there are other students who have that same question.大多数老师都希望
26、学生在不理解教授的概念时能够提问。好学生敢于提问，因为他们知道，如果自己不理解某个概念会不利于今后的学习。提问有时对班级同学也有好处，很有可能你不理解的问题正好也是其他同学不明白的。The perfect student is a.HARD WORKER.好学生会努力学习The perfect student isnt necessarily the smartest student. There are plenty of students who are blessed with natural intelligence, but lack the self discipline to h
27、one that intelligence. Teachers love students who choose to work hard no matter what their level of intelligence is. Being a hard worker in school simply means completing assignments on time, putting your maximum effort into every assignment, asking for extra help when you need it, putting in the ti
28、me to study for tests and quizzes, as well as recognizing weaknesses and looking for ways to improve upon those weaknesses.好学生并非总是最聪明的学生。有很多学生生来智商高，但是缺乏训练智商的自律精神。老师喜爱努力学习的学生，无论他们的智商水平处在什么等级。在学校里努力学习意味着按时完成作业、全力应对任务、寻求帮助、准备考试，同时还要认识自己的弱点，并试着克服弱点。The perfect student is.INVOLVED.好学生会参与活动Being involved
29、in extra-curricular activities can help a student gain confidence which can improve academic success. Most good students get involved in some activity whether it is athletics, Student Council, etc. These activities provide so many learning opportunities that a traditional classroom simply cant. Thes
30、e activities also provide opportunities to take on leadership roles and they often teach people to work together as a team to accomplish a common goal.全情投入于各种课外活动有助于获得自信，从而取得学业上的成功，大多数好学生会参加体育活动、学生会等等。这些活动提供了很多在传统课堂上学习不到的知识。这些活动还提供了成为领导者的机会，同时，教学生与他人合作达到共同的目标。The perfect student is a.LEADER.好学生是领导者T
31、eachers love good students who are natural leaders within their classroom. Whole classes have their own unique personalities and often times those classes with good leaders are good classes. Leadership skills are often innate. It is also a skill that develops over time amongst your peers. Being trus
32、tworthy is a key component of being a leader. If your classmates dont trust you, then you will never be leader. If you are a leader amongst your peers, you have the ultimate responsibility to lead by example and the ultimate power to motivate others to be successful.老师喜欢班级中天生的领导者。每个班级都有自己的特点，通常情况下，有
33、优秀领导者的班级表现得更好。领导才能通常是天生的，但也可以在同龄人中锻炼发展出来。值得信任是成为领导者的关键因素。如果班上的同学不信任你，你永远也不能领导他们。如果你是同龄人中的领导者，你有责任以身作则，也有权利激励他人成功。The perfect student is.MOTIVATED.好学生会积极向上Motivation comes from many places. The best students are the ones that are motivated to be successful. Motivation means different things to differ
34、ent people. Good teachers will figure out how to motivate most students in someway, but those students who are self-motivated are far easier to teach than those who arent.动力来源于各处。好学生通常会受到激励，变得成功。动力因人而异。好老师会想方法激励学生，但是那些懂得自我激励的学生比他人来说更易教。The perfect student is a.PROBLEM SOLVER.好学生会解决问题No skill is lack
35、ing more in this generation of students than that of the ability to be a problem solver. At the simple click of a mouse, students today can access more information than ever before, thus rendering problem solving skills virtually obsolete. Those students who do possess true problem solving abilities
36、 are rare gems that teachers love.这一代的学生 最缺乏的技能就是解决问题的能力。现在的学生只要轻点鼠标，就可以获得大量的信息。因此，他们自己解决问题的能力已经大大下降。能够真正自行解决问题的学生可谓凤毛麟角，而这些学生则深得老师喜爱。The perfect student.SEIZES OPPORTUNITIES.好学生会抓住机遇It is true that every student must attend school for some period of time, but that doesnt mean that every student sei
37、zes that opportunity and maximizes their learning potential. Many parents dont see value in education, thus their children dont see value in education. The best students take advantage of the opportunities their afforded and value the education that they have an opportunity to receive.确实，每个学生都必须接受义务
38、教育，但是并不是每一个学生都可以抓住机会，把教育的潜能发挥到最大化。许多家长也重视教育，因此他们的儿女也如此。好学生会抓住他们得到的教育机会，并珍视这个机会。The perfect student is a.SOLID CITIZEN.好学生是一位好公民Teachers will tell you that classes full of students who follow the rules and procedures have a better chance at maximizing their learning potential. Students who are well b
39、ehaved in class are easy for teachers to deal with even if they struggle academically. Nobody wants to work with a student who constantly causes problems, but teachers will try to move mountains for students who are polite, respectful, and follow the rules.老师们说 ，如果一个班级的学生都遵守校规，这个班级最有可能最大化出教育潜力。在班级里表
40、现良好的学生即使遇到了学业瓶颈，老师在解决他们的问题时也更轻松。没有人想要同不断制造麻烦的学生相处，老师们更愿意为懂礼貌、敬师长、遵校规的学生解决问题。The perfect student has a.SUPPORT SYSTEM.好学生受他人支持Unfortunately this quality is one that individual students often have very little control of. You cannot control who your parents or guardians are. It is something that you ca
41、n overcome, but it does make it a lot easier if you have a healthy support system in place. They push you to success, offer advice. They are there for you in times of adversity and they cheer for you in times that you are successful. Having a great support system doesnt make or break you as a studen
42、t, but it definitely gives you an advantage.不幸的是，这一点是学生本人无法掌控的。你无法决定父母或者监护人是谁。虽然你可以克服这一点，但是如果受到他人支持，学习的过程就更简单一点了。他们会帮助你成功，给你提出建议。你难过的时候，他们会在你身边；你成功的时候，他们会为你鼓掌。学习的成败不是由有力的支持决定的，但有力的支持绝对会给你带来优势。The perfect student is.TRUSTWORTHY.好学生受人信赖Being trustworthy is a quality that will endear you not only to yo
43、ur teachers, but also to your classmates. No one wants to surround themselves with people that they ultimately cannot trust. Teachers love students and classes that they trust, because they can give them liberties that often provide learning opportunities they would not be afforded otherwise. 受人信赖不仅
44、仅让老师喜爱你，也让同学喜欢你，没有人愿意处在自己不信任的人身边。老师喜欢可以信任的学生和班级，因为这种情况下老师可以给学生们自由，而这样的自由所提供的学习机会是不受信赖的学生所体验不到的What is the single most thing about any person?有没有什么单一的指标最能揭露任何一个人的本性？获得 2.7k 好评的答案Vijay Gedigeri“If you want to know whats a man really like, take a good look at how he treats his , not his equals“.- Siriu
45、s Black, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.“如果你想了解一个人的 为人，就要留意他是如何对待他的下级的，而不能光看他如何对待与他地位相等的人。 ”西里斯布莱克， 哈利波特与火焰杯获得 229 好评的答案Sarah ChangWhat theyre most proud of.他们所为之自豪的事情。获得 437 好评的答案Paul DenlingerTheir questions.他们提的问题。Questions reveal what they are focusing their attention on, and also what thei
46、r blind spots are.人所提的 问题能够揭露他们到底关注什么，还能揭露他们的盲点。获得 3.7k 好评的答案Abhisek Pattnaik“Nearly all men can stand , but if you want to test a mans character, give him power.“-Abraham Lincoln“几乎所有人都能忍受逆境，但是如果你想知道一个人的真实面目，就请给他权力。 ”亚伯拉罕林肯获得 5.1k 好评的答案Brett WilliamsHow they treat receptionists, waiters, call-cente
47、r employees and anyone in a service profession. It speaks volumes about their character and their ability to deal with problems in a rational way.看他们如何对待前台、服务员、客服人员以及任何服务业者，这能充分说明他们的性格以及他们是否能理性地解决问题。获得 1.4k 好评的答案Sripriya ReddyTheir phones lockscreen wallpaper 他们的手机锁屏图片。When you get to see someones l
48、ockscreen, youre seeing something this person wants to be reminded of everyday. Something that they would like to look at even before unlocking their phone. It is like a window to their soul.当你看到某人的 锁屏图片时，你看到的是这个人希望每天都能记起的东西，是 ta 希望在给手机解锁之前就能看到的东西，这就仿佛是他们灵魂的窗户。Their wallpaper may be of their pet, se
49、lfie, parents, children, partner, current car/dream car, favorite actor/singer/sportsperson, favorite bible verse, a beautiful scenery or even the default wallpaper.他们的壁纸可能是他们的宠物、自拍、父母、孩子、配偶、现有的车/想要的车、最喜欢的演员/歌手/ 运动员、最喜欢的圣经章节、一张漂亮的风景照甚至是系统默认壁纸。As a die hard cricket fan, my lockscreen has a picture of ABde Villiers (South African cricketer) at a press conference.作为板球运动的死忠粉，我的锁屏是亚伯拉罕本杰明德维里尔斯在记者招待会上的一张照片（他是个南美板球运动员） 。获得 9.7k 好评的答案Jill UchiyamaI had a teacher who said it best.我有个老师曾说过这么一句话，说得非常好。You dont know who someo
