1、Are You Being Bullied at School?|你在学校受人欺吗？ If youre being bullied, it doesnt mean there is something wrong with you.You have a right to feel safe and secure3. If you are being bullied at school, it is the schools responsibility to stop it. If you are being harassed4 or attacked outside of school, th
2、e police have a responsibility to help you.The bully is the one with the problemA lot of bullies are already being bullied themselves. They feel powerless and so they look for ways to feel tough5 at school or on the street. Often, the bully is jealous of other kids, so he picks on6 those who are cle
3、verer, or those kids who have cool gear7 or more money.Usually, bullies dont like themselves, so they take out their frustrations8 on someone else, eg youWhat can you do?* Look calm and confident even when you are not! You can practice this in the bathroom mirror.* If possible, ignore9 the bully. Bu
4、llies want a reactionif you dont seem upset10 or angry, theyll often leave you alone11.* Walk away. Just because a bully starts an argument doesnt mean you have to hang around12 and finish it.* Avoid being alone. Bullies are cowards13 who only pick a fight when they know they can win. If you are wit
5、h friends, they are more likely to leave you alone.Get help!Tell an adult you can trust. This doesnt mean you are weak. In life you often need to get help from other people. When you have a broken leg, you get help from a doctorit doesnt mean you are weak. If you are being bullied you also get help.
6、 Bullies want you to keep quiet. When you speak up14, you refuse to play the bullys game. Telling others about the problem is a brave move.Keep a diary of what is happening. When you tell a teacher, a friendly adult, or the police, you need to have the facts: when, where and what happened. Keep to15
7、 the facts. Avoid exaggerating16. Keep telling people about the problem. If the first teacher doesnt help, tell another and another. If the first adult doesnt help, tell another. If the first policeman doesnt help, tell another. Persist17.When you see other people being bulliedIf you do nothing, you
8、 send a message to the bully that it is OK with you. So what can you do?Tell the bully to stop it.Tell other people about it. Encourage the person who is being bullied to tell others about it.Be a friend to the person who is being bullied. It may not mean much to you, but it can mean the world18 to
9、the person who feels scared and alone.Brand NamesImagine this scene from a movie. A guy and girl are embracing19 in the moonlight.She says, “Brad, I have to know. Why do you love me?”And he says, “Because you wear Nikes.”How stupid is that?Do your friends wear “brand names” on their jeans, belts, un
10、derwear20? Maybe you think having brand names is a matter of life and death21. It isnt.If your friend Jim wears three hundred dollar sneakers, all it means is that his parents had a spare three hundred dollars. What does that have to do with you? Does that make Jim any better than you? No!There will
11、 always be people around who wear clothes, drive cars and live in houses that you cant afford. Get used to it.What really counts22 is who you are and what you stand for. Its whats on the inside, not whats on the outside.In a nutshellIf you think it really matters, then it really matters. As soon as
12、you say, “it doesnt matter,” you can relax.哈里森福特、梅尔吉布森、米歇尔法伊弗和菲尔柯林斯有什么共同之处？他们都在学校被人欺负过。假如你在被人欺负，这并不说明你有什么错。你有权感到平平安安。要是你在学校给人欺负了，学校就有责任制止这件事。要是你在校外遭到骚扰或攻击，警察就应该协助你。欺负你的人才有咨询题。非常多欺负别人的人本身正在受人欺负。他们感到无力对抗，因此就设法到学校或街头寻找那种本人非常厉害的感受。通常，欺负别人的人是嫉妒别的小孩，因此就在那些比他聪明的人身上找茬儿，或者跟那些穿得帅气、有钱的小孩过不去。一般来说，欺负别人的人不喜爱本人，因此
13、就拿别人出气，比方说你。如何办？*即便你不平复、不自信，也要表现出平复和自信！不妨对着卫生间的镜子练习练习。*尽量不把他们当回事儿。这些人需要的是反响假如你看上去既不苦恼也不生气，他们通常都会放过你。*回避。仅仅由于他挑起事端，并不说明你就必须留下来奉陪到底。*不要独来独往。欺负别人的人事实上都是懦夫，有把握赢才会滋事。假如你跟朋友在一起，他们非常可能就放过你。寻求协助告诉一个你信得过的大人。这不是说你软弱。生活中你经常需要得到别人的协助。腿断了要医生协助这不是说你软弱。假如有人欺负你，也能够寻求协助。他们希望你保持沉默。你说出来，就说明你不吃他们那一套。把事情告诉别人是一种英勇的举动。把发生
14、的事情记在日记里。假如你告诉教师、好心的大人或警察，必须有事实依照：什么时候，在什么地点发生了什么事。有一说一，有二说二。不要夸张其辞。不断地跟别人讲。第一个教师不帮你，就跟第二个、第三个教师讲。第一个大人不帮你，就跟第二个大人讲。第一个警察不帮你，就跟第二个警察讲。坚持不懈。发觉有人受欺负时假如你毫无反响，确实是向恃强凌弱者发出信号：你对这种行为是认可的。那么你该如何办呢？叫他住手。把事情告诉别人。鼓舞被欺负的人把事情告诉别人。跟被欺负的人做朋友。这对你也许是举手之劳，但关于那个害怕的、孤单的人来说可能是天大的好事。商标名想像一下电影里出现这么一幕。男孩和女孩在月下拥抱。女孩说，“布拉德，我要明白，你为什么爱我？”男孩说，“由于你穿的是耐克。”这话有多蠢？你朋友的牛仔裤、皮带和内衣上有“商标名”吗？或许你以为有商标名是生死攸关的大事。事实上不然。假如你的朋友吉姆穿了一双三百元的运动鞋，这只能说明他父母能拿出三百元给他。这跟你有什么关系？是不是吉姆就比你强了？不是！周围总会有人穿得比你好，开的车比你好，住的房子比你好，这些东西你买不起。要习以为常。真正有价值的是你是什么样的人，你代表的是什么。重要的是内心，不是外表。简言之假如你认为什么有关系，那就确实有关系。一旦你说“没关系”，你就能做到放松。=
