1、Of Marriage and Single LifeFrancis BaconHe that hath wife and children hath given hostages to fortune; for they are impediments to great enterprises, either of virtue or mischief. Certainly the best works, and of greatest merit for the public, have proceeded from the unmarried or childless men; whic
2、h both in affection and means, have married and endowed the public. Yet it were great reason that those that have children, should have greatest care of future times; unto which they know they must transmit their dearest pledges. Some there are, who though they lead a single life, yet their thoughts
3、 do end with themselves, and account future times impertinences. Nay, there are some other, that account wife and children, but as bills of charges. Nay more, there are some foolish rich covetous men that take a pride, in having no children, because they may be thought so much the richer. For perhap
4、s they have heard some talk, “Such an one is a great rich man”, and another except to it, “Yea, but he hath a great charge of children”; as if it were an abatement to his riches. But the most ordinary cause of a single life, is liberty, especially in certain self-pleasing and humorous minds, which a
5、re so sensible of every restraint, as they will go near to think their girdles and garters, to be bonds and shackles. Unmarried men are best friends, best masters, best servants; but not always best subjects; for they are light to run away; and almost all fugitives, are of that condition. A single l
6、ife doth well with churchmen; for charity will hardly water the ground, where it must first fill a pool. It is indifferent for judges and magistrates; for if they be facile and corrupt, you shall have a servant, five times worse than a wife. For soldiers, I find the generals commonly in their hortat
7、ives, put men in mind of their wives and children; and I think the despising of marriage amongst the Turks, maketh the vulgar soldier more base. Certainly wife and children are a kind of discipline of humanity; and single men, though they may be many times more charitable, because their means are le
8、ss exhaust, yet, on the other side, they are more cruel and hardhearted (good to make severe inquisitors), because their tenderness is not so oft called upon. Grave natures, led by custom, and therefore constant, are commonly loving husbands, as was said of Ulysses, vetulam suam praetulit immortalit
9、ati. Chaste women are often proud and froward, as presuming upon the merit of their chastity. It is one of the best bonds, both of chastity and obedience, in the wife, if she think her husband wise; which she will never do, if she find him jealous. Wives are young mens mistresses; companions for mid
10、dle age; and old mens nurses. So as a man may have a quarrel to marry, when he will. But yet he was reputed one of the wise men, that made answer to the question, when a man should marry, - A young man not yet, an elder man not at all. It is often seen that bad husbands, have very good wives; whethe
11、r it be, that it raiseth the price of their husbands kindness, when it comes; or that the wives take a pride in their patience. But this never fails, if the bad husbands were of their own choosing, against their friends consent; for then they will be sure to make good their own folly. 论结婚与独身（水天同译）有妻
12、与子的人已经向命运之神交了抵押品了；因为妻与子是大事底阻挠物，无论是大善举或大恶行。无疑地，最好，最有功于公众的事业是出自无妻或无子的人的；这些人在情感和金钱两方面都可说是娶了公众并给以奁资了。然而依理似乎有子嗣的人应当最关心将来，他们知道他们一定得把自己最贵重的保证交代给将来的。有些人虽然过的是独身生活，他们的思想却仅限于自身，把将来认为无关紧要。并且有些人把妻与子认为仅仅是几项开销。尤有甚者，有些愚而富的悭吝人竟以无子嗣自豪，以为如此则他们在别人眼中更显得富有了。也许他们听过这样的话：一人说， “某某人是个大富翁” ，而另一人不同意地说， “是的，可是他有很大的儿女之累” ，好象儿女是那人
13、底财富底削减似的。然而独身生活底最普通的原因则是自由，尤其在某种自喜而且任性的人们方面为然，这些人对于各种的约束都很敏感，所以差不多连腰带袜带都觉得是锁链似的。独身的人是最好的朋友，最好的主人，最好的仆人，但是并非最好的臣民；因为他们很容易逃跑，差不多所有的逃人都是独身的。独身生活适于僧侣之流，因为慈善之举若先须注满一池，则难于灌溉地面也。独身于法官和知事则无甚关系，因为假如他们是易欺而贪污的，则一个仆人之恶将五倍于一位夫人之恶也。至于军人，窃见将帅激厉士卒时，多使他们忆及他们底妻子儿女；又窃以为土耳其人之不尊重婚姻使一般士兵更为卑贱也。妻子和儿女对于人类确是一种训练；而独身的人，虽然他们往往
14、很慷慨好施，因为他们底钱财不易消耗，然而在另一方面他们较为残酷狠心（作审问官甚好） ，因为他们不常有用仁慈之处也。庄重的人，常受风俗引导，因而心志不移，所以多是情爱甚笃的丈夫；如古人谓攸立西斯：“他宁要他底老妻而不要长生”者是也。贞节的妇人往往骄傲不逊，一若她们是自恃贞节也者。假如一个妇人相信她底丈夫是聪慧的，那就是最好的使她保持贞操及柔顺的维系；然而假如这妇人发现丈夫妒忌心重，她就永不会以为他是聪慧的了。妻子是青年人底情人，中年人底伴侣，老年人底看护。所以一个人只要他愿意，任何时候都有娶妻底理由。然而有一个人，人家问他，人应当在什么时候结婚？他答道：“年青的人还不应当，年老的人全不应当” 。
15、这位也被人称为智者之一。常见不良的丈夫多有很好的妻子；其原因也许是因为这种丈夫底好处在偶尔出现的时候更显得可贵，也许是因为做妻子的以自己底耐心自豪。但是这一点是永远不错的，就是这些不良的丈夫必须是做妻子的不顾亲友之可否而自己选择的，因为如此她们就一定非补救自己底失策不可也。论婚姻 (何新译) 成了家的人，可以说对于命运之神付出了抵押品。因为家庭难免拖累于事业，使人的许多抱负难以实现。所以，最能为公从献身的人往往是那种不被家室所累的人。因为只有这种人，才能够把他的全部爱情与财产都奉献给唯一的情人公众。而那种有家室的人，恐怕只愿把美好的祝愿保留给自己的后代。 有的人在结婚后仍然愿意继续过独身生活。
16、因为他们不喜欢家庭，把妻子儿女看作经济上的累赘。还有一些富人甚至以无子嗣为自豪，也许他们是担心，一旦有了子女就会瓜分现有的财产吧。有一种人过独身生活是为了保持自由，以避免受约束于家庭承担的义务和责任。但这种人，可能会认为腰带和鞋带也难免是一种束缚束吧！实际上，独身者也许可以成为最好的朋友，最好的主人，最好的仆人，但很难成为最好的公民。因为他们随时可以迁逃，所以差不多一切流窜犯都是无家者。 作为献身宗教的僧侣，是有理由保持独身的，否则他们的悲慈就将先布施于家人而不是供奉于上帝了。作为法官与律师，是否独身关系并不大，因为只要他们身边有一个坏的幕僚，其进谗言的能力就足以抵上五个妻子。作为军人，有家室
17、则是好事，家庭的荣誉可以激发他们的责任感和勇气。这一点可以从土耳其的事例中得到反证那里的风俗不重视婚姻和家庭，结果他们士兵的斗志很差。 对家庭的责任心不仅是对人类的一种约束，也是一种训练。那种独身的人，虽然在用起钱来很挥霍，但实际上往往是心肠很硬的，因为他们不懂得怎样去爱他人。一种好的风俗，能教化出情感坚贞严肃的男子汉，例如像尤利西斯（Ulysses）那样，他曾抵制美丽女神的诱惑，而保持了对妻子的忠贞。 一个独身的女人常常是骄横的，因为她需要显示，她的贞节似乎是自愿保持的。如果一个女人为丈夫的聪明优秀而自豪，那么这是使她忠贞不渝的最好保证。但如果一个女人发现她的丈夫是忌妒多疑的，那么她将绝不会
18、认为他是聪明的。在人生中，妻子是青年时代的情人，中年时代的伴侣，暮年时代的守护。所以在人的一生中，只要有合适的对象选择，任何时候结婚都是有理由的。但也有一位古代哲人，对于人应当在何时结婚这个问题是这样说的：“年纪少时还不应当，年纪大时已不必要。 ” 美满的婚姻是难得一遇的。常可见到许多不出色的丈夫却有一位美丽的妻子。这莫非是因为这种丈夫由于具有不太多的优点，反而使他的优点更值得被珍视吗？也许因为伴随这种丈夫，可以考验一个妇人的忍耐精神吧？如果这种婚姻出自一个女人的自愿选择，甚至是不顾亲友的劝告而选择的，那么就让她自己去品尝这枚果实的滋味吧。 Version 3 王佐良夫人之有妻儿也不啻已向命运
19、典质，从此难成大事，无论善恶。兴大业，立大功，往往系未婚无儿者所为，彼辈似已与公众结亲，故爱情产业并以付之。按理而论，有子女者应对未来岁月最为关切，因已将至亲骨肉托付之矣。独身者往往思虑仅及己身，以为未来与己无关。有人则视妻儿为负债。更有贪而愚者，以无儿女为荣，以为如此更可夸其富足。此辈或曾闻人议论，一云此人为大富，另一则云否也，其人有多子负担，其财必损。然独身之原因，最常见者为喜自由，尤其自娱任性之人不耐任何束缚，身上褡带亦视为桎梏。未婚者为最好之友、最好之主、最好之仆，然非最好之臣，因其身轻易遁也，故亡命徒几全未婚。未婚适合教会中人，因如先须注水于家池则无余泽以惠人矣。然对法官行政官等则无
20、足轻重，彼辈如收礼贪财，劣仆之害五倍于妻。至于士兵，余尝见将军以渠等妻儿所望激励之，而土耳其人鄙视婚姻，故其士兵更为卑劣。妻儿对人确为一种锻炼。单身者本可心慈过人，因其资财少耗也，实则由于不常触其心肠，反而更为严酷(因而适为审判异端之官)。庄重之人守规不渝，为夫常能爱妻，是故人云优利息斯“爱老妻胜过不朽也” 。贞节之妇自恃节操，不免骄纵。欲使妻子守贞从夫，夫须有智；如妻疑夫猜忌，则断难听命矣。妻子者，青年之情妇，中年之伴侣，老年之护士也，故如决心结婚，须善择时。昔有智者答人问何时可婚，曾云：“青年未到时，老年不必矣。 ”常见恶夫有良妻，是否由于此辈丈夫偶尔和善，更见其可贵，抑或此类妻子以忍耐为美德欤？可确言者，如妻子不顾友朋劝告而自择恶夫，则必尽力弥补前失。
