1、Marriage Stages,1. romance perfect 2. disillusionment flawed 3. power struggle painful 4. awakening rational 5. long-term marriage happy,fiance bridegroom husbandfiancee bride wifegroomsman a maid/matron of honorbridesmaid,“I do.” To westerners those two words carry great meaning. They can even chan
2、ge your life. Especially if you say them at your own wedding. Making wedding vows is like signing a contract. Now Americans dont really think their marriage is a business deal, but marriage is serious business.,Wedding customs in western countries,订婚仪式： It all begins with the engagement. Traditional
3、ly, a young man asks the father of his sweetheart for permission to marry her. If the father agrees, the man later proposes to her. Often he tries to surprise her by “popping the question“ in a romantic way. Sometimes the couple just decides together that the time is right to get married. The man us
4、ually gives his fiance a diamond ring as a symbol of their engagement. They may be engaged for weeks, months or even years. As the big day approaches, bridal showers and bachelors parties provide many useful gifts. Today many couples also receive counseling during engagement. This prepares them for
5、the challenges of married life.,婚礼进程： At last its time for the wedding. Although most weddings follow long-held traditions, theres still room for American individualism. For example, the usual place for a wedding is in a church. But some people get married outdoors in a scenic spot. A few even have
6、the ceremony while skydiving or riding on horseback! The couple may invite hundreds of people or just a few close friends. They choose their own style of colors, decorations and music during the ceremony. But some things rarely change. The bride usually wears a beautiful, long white wedding dress. S
7、he traditionally wears “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue.“ The groom wears a formal suit or tuxedo. Several close friends participate in the ceremony as attendants, including the best man and the maid of honor.,教堂仪式： As the ceremony begins, the groom and his grooms
8、men stand with the minister, facing the audience. Music signals the entrance of the bridesmaids, followed by the beautiful bride. Nervously, the young couple repeat their vows. Traditionally, they promise to love each other “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.“
9、But sometimes the couple has composed their own vows. They give each other a gold ring to symbolize their marriage commitment. Finally the minister announces the big moment: “I now pronounce you man and wife. You may kiss the bride!“,婚礼宴会： At the wedding reception, the bride and groom greet their gu
10、ests. Then they cut the wedding cake and feed each other a bite. Guests mingle while enjoying cake, punch and other treats. (Usually at a reception a dinner is served) Later the bride throws her bouquet of flowers to a group of single girls. Tradition says that the one who catches the bouquet will b
11、e the next to marry. During the reception, playful friends “decorate“ the couples car with tissue paper, tin cans and a “Just Married“ sign. When the reception is over, the newlyweds run to their “decorated“ car and speed off. Many couples take a honeymoon, a one- to two-week vacation trip, to celeb
12、rate their new marriage.,Priest: , do you take this woman, , to be your lawful wedded wife, to live together in the estate of matrimony? Will you love her, honor her, comfort her and keep her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be true to her as long as both shall live?,牧师：John Smit
13、h，你愿意娶Mary White做你的合法妻子，结婚并一起生活吗？你会爱她、尊重她、照顾她、养活她，无论生病或是健康，一心一意的对待她一生吗？,Bridegroom: I, John smith, take you, Mary White, as my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do u
14、s apart.,新郎：我，John Smith，愿意娶Mary White做我的合法妻子，从今以后，不计成败，无论贫富，生病或健康，相爱相惜，至死不渝。,I, Brides name, take you Grooms name, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever I will trust you and honor you I will laugh with you
15、and cry with you. I will love you faithfully Through the best and the worst, Through the difficult and the easy. What may come I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold So I give you my life to keep So help me God,Entreat me not to leave you, or to return from following after you,
16、For where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God And where you die, I will die and there I will be buried. May the Lord do with me and more if anything but death parts you from me.,我(新郎的名字)请你(新娘的名字),做我的妻子， 我生命中的伴侣和我唯一的爱人。 我将珍惜我们的友谊，爱你， 不论是现在，将来，还是永远。 我会信任你，尊敬你， 我将和你一起欢笑，一起哭泣。 我会忠诚的爱着你， 无论未来是好的还是坏的， 是艰难的还是安乐的， 我都会陪你一起度过。 无论准备迎接什么样的生活， 我都会一直守护在这里。 就像我伸出手让你紧握住一样， 我会将我的生命交付于你。 所以请帮助我 我的主。,真诚的恳求上帝让我不要离开你， 或是让我跟随在你身后 因为你到哪里我就会去到哪里， 因为你的停留所以我停留。 你爱的人将成为我爱的人， 你的主也会成为我的主。 你在哪里死去， 我也将和你一起在那里被埋葬， 也许主要求我做的更多， 但是不论发生任何事情， 都会有你在身边生死相随。,
