1、Cross-gender Communication,Lets start from the book.,This book is essentially telling men what women need and women what men need. The metaphor that made it crystally clear that men and women are supposed to be different. They speak in different language, have different emotional needs, score differ
2、ent points with the opposite sex. They therefore communicate differently or not communicate with their partners.,Contents,Misunderstandings in CGC Gender Differences in Communication Styles Roots of Gender Differences Principles for Effective CGC,Group discussion,What do you usually do at the weeken
3、ds?What subjects are girls good at in school?What are the ideal jobs for men/women in our society?What are the common conversation topics for men/women?,Brainstorming again,Are there any misunderstandings between you and a friend of the opposite sex?What are the other differences between males and f
4、emales, apart from the biological differences? What are the underlying reasons?,A Gender Survey,腾讯副总裁刘畅泪洒记者会2010-11,Sex and Gender,Sex refers to the biological differences between males and females.Sex is static and cannot be changed.,Gender concerns the psychological, social and cultural difference
5、s between males and females.Gender socializationGender is more dynamic and can be constructed in the life time. Gender= sex+ culture+ role in society,Sex is a male or female signal based on biology;Gender is a feminine or masculine signal based on social roles and status.,CGC,Cross-gender communicat
6、ion occurs when there is communication between people from different sexes.,Gender Role and Gender Identity,Gender role refers to the expected ways of behaving for a male or female according to a society.,In Asia,Men are believed superior than women. They are responsible for passing family names. Gi
7、rls were confined to the inner quarters of the house where they receive instructions in womanly behavior and tasks, such as domestic duties, embroidery and cooking.,A is the male or female, why?,Case 1A married couple are going to visit a friend. They have been driving around for some time looking f
8、or the right street. B is angry because A refuses to stop and ask directions of someone.p126,Case 2A and B got married a few years ago. A is the life and soul of the party when they go out, chatting away loudly and seems interested in all topics. But at home A does not have much to say and B does mo
9、st of the talking.,Case 3On a ride in a car, A asked B, “Would you like to stop for a drink?” B replied, “No,” and they didnt stop. B was later frustrated to learn that A was annoyed because A had wanted to stop for a drink.,Case 4A：怎么了你？情绪这么不好？B: 哦，没什么。A: 是我做错了什么吗？B: 没有。A: 哦，那就好。,Case 5A：今天工作怎么样？B:
10、 还好。A: 和你的新客户见面了？谈得顺利吗？B: 不错。A: 他们觉得你的建议怎么样？接受了吗？B: 嗯。是的。A: 你精神怎么这么不好？出什么问题了？B: 没有。,Roots of gender differences,Males and females are inborn different from each other.Family communication, particularly between mothers and childrenRecreational interaction among children (p122)Interactions with other
11、people such as peers, teachers, medias,play house; jump ropePlay hide and seek;,Football;Basketball;,Mother-daughter interaction: same sex Daughter can observe and learn directly from Mother. Females can develop their gender identities from imitating their mothers.,Cooperative; sensitive,Confide; Sh
12、areand express feelings,define self in relation to others,Mother-son interaction: different sexesSon has to develop a gender identity by differentiating from the mother and establish selfhood.,Define self independent of others,Dependent; reserved,Same signs, different interpretation,If you were the
13、boss and saw that:the family album is on the desks;messiness of the desks;the staff talking to the colleagues;the staff is going to get married;the staff is going to change jobs,Differences in communication styles,Men (p124),Direct,Interrupt more, swear more and argue more,Talk to express authority
14、and confidence,Value power and competency,Offer solutions,Establish their status in a group,Women (p124-2),indirect,Ask more questions, support more and agree more,Talk to reach agreement, show their understanding or sympathy,Establish and maintain or reinforce harmonious relationship,Gender differe
15、nces in language features,Q: Then you went next door?A: And then I went immediately next door, yes. / Yes.Q: You know your way around?A: Yes, I guess I do. / Yes.,Gender differences in language features,Pronunciation: women tend to pronounce in a clear and standardized way; Were gonna Were going toI
16、ntonation: rising tone high pitch,Gender language,Vocabulary:Femalesuse more adjectives, adverbs and intensifiers; use more hedges like sort of, I guess, Im afraidMalesuse more swear words,Sentence pattern:Women use more tag questions than men.Men use more imperative sentences than women. Women tend to use super polite forms and hyper correct grammar.Women lack the sense of joke-telling and humor.,Youre going to search,“Inconceivable” by Ben Elton“Maybe Baby” by Ben Elton穷养儿子富养女,
