1、Cultural differences in politeness between western and Chinese,1.Greeting and Parting,In China, When people meet acquaintances or friends, we always say ,“Have you eaten yet?” What are you going to do?”In English, people often employ the following expressions to greet each other “Good morning/evenin
2、g/afternoon. “Fine day, isnt it? ”How is everything going?”,etc.,Western and Chinese cultures have diverse ways to deal with leave-takings.,Western people always try to make their leaving sound reluctant by finding some reasons and apologize for it to make the leaving acceptable for both parties. Th
3、ey often signal several times before leaving. Such as, 1.“I am afraid I must be off, I have to ” 2.“Well, its been nice to see you again. I do enjoy our talk and the lovely dinner, but I must be going soon”. 3.“Thank you very much for asking me over. I hope well be able to get together again before
4、long”,2Addressing,In China, the surname comes first and then the given name. While westerners names are written and spoken with the given name first and the family name last.,In a formal setting, westerners address men as “Mister“ (Mr), married women as “Misses“ (“Mrs.“), and unmarried women as “Mis
5、s“ ( “Ms.“). These days many women prefer to be addressed using the abbreviations “Ms.“ , pronounced “miz“.In an informal situation, westerners will introduce each other by first name, without titles, and occasionally by just the last name.,East&West,Chinese use “title +surname” to address their sup
6、erior or elders rather than call them surnames, while the superior or elders call the addressers their names. otherwise, the addresser may be considered as ill mannered, ill educated or rude.,In west, Although they are different in age and status, they can call the other directly, namely, their name
7、s, even first names .They demonstrate the sense of intimacy and the conception of” Everyone is created equal”,3.Compliments and Response,For example, if a hostess is complimented for her cooking skill ,how she will response in west and china?,East&West,A Chinese hostess will apologize for giving you
8、 “Nothing”. She will say“I just made some dishes casually and they are not very tasty.”,An western hostess is likely to say,” Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. I cook it especially for you.”,What we can see from it?,The Americans are “straight forwardness”, the Chinese take pride in “modesty”. In
9、the response to compliments. Chinese are tend to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel comfortable about the compliments.,4. Thanks and Responses,In China,“Thank you” is not frequently used between intimate friends and family members because it may imply a certain distance b
10、etween the addresser and the addressee. “Thank you” is widely used in English to show gratitude in such cases as being invited, helped, given a gift, etc.,5. Asking Personal Affairs,People from China do not regard it as asking personal affairs when they ask others name、age、marital status、wages、perso
11、nal life、belief and political points. It is regard as concerns. While the westerns will think you violate their right of privacy .,East&West,when we talk to the westerns, we must avoid asking some questions like this: “How old are you?” “Are you married？” “How many children do you have？” “How much d
12、o you make？” “Do you go to the church？”,In the culture of British and America, it is very important to consult a time before you invite somebody to attend a banquet or take part in social activities. Esp. in America, invite somebody means you are borrow times of others. So they respect time very muc
13、h. While in China, people are prefer to an uninvited guest.,6.Invitation,Different cultural factors may result in cultural differences.,1.Cultural Background 2. Different values 3.Individualism and Collectivism 4. Family 5.Nationalism ,Something about western families,Western families advocate equal
14、ity in daily life. The husband and the wife usually have an equality voice in decision-making, and on certain matters, the children, too, have a vote. In the western, most old people do not live with their children or relatives. If they have enough money they will buy house or apartments in places w
15、here other old people live .If they do not healthy and strong enough to live alone, they would rather live in nursing houses for old people than be taken by their children. Therefore they want to stay young because youth stands for hope and energy, they do not like to grow old because they will not gain honor, respect or attention as old people .,
