1、Focus: The Key To SuccessUnleash The Hidden YouBy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxHHhttp:/xxxxxxxxxxFocus: The Key To Success is provided for your general information only. The information contained in this ebook should not be treated as a substitute for medical, legal or other professional advice.The nec
2、essary legal bits and copyright infoxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxWelcomeFocus: Can it work for you?Are you doing exactly what you want to do in your life today? Have you attained every goal you ever set yourself? If you can answer yes to these questi
3、ons, then this book is probably not for you. But wait! If you answered NO to these questions and your answers to the following questions are still NO, then you NEED this book. Do you find it EASY to concentrate and focus 100% on the task in hand? Is it SIMPLE for you to exercise self-discipline when
4、 you need to? Are you CONFIDENT when talking with peers, partners or even your kids? Have you LEARNT how the art of focus, confidence and self-discipline changes lives? Can you look yourself in the mirror SMILING about everything youve accomplished so far? Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut
5、 with the feeling that your life is going NOWHERE? Have you ever felt UNSURE about the steps you have taken, and continue to take in your life? Are you EXACTLY where you want to be in life right now? No? Dont worry, and dont feel bad. There are lots of other people just like you. People who have no
6、direction, or they could possibly have a direction but just dont know how to get there. I may just have the answer for you today.Everybodys life has its ups and downs, but not everybody is aware that they can actually DO something themselves to turn things around. Knowing how to focus, how to build
7、up confidence and self-esteem, and knowing when to exercise self-discipline are HUGE steps toward a better life for yourself and those around you.Ok, lets get down to why you are REALLY reading this book. Lets look at focus, confidence and self-discipline and see what we can do to make things work f
8、or you!FocusFocus is a scary word to most people. What can it do for us? How can it help us? Can we program ourselves to focus? Focus, confidence and self-discipline all work hand in hand with each other. Learning to focus can help us in many ways. It can help us realise what we really want in life,
9、 it can help us make good and informed decisions. It can also help us to accept ourselves just the way we are, without feeling the need to condemn ourselves or put ourselves down in any way, shape or form. Focus can help us gain confidence, power and happiness. Focus can also help us remain grounded
10、 and stay on track. Focus can change confusion into absolute knowledge and self-criticism into love for oneself.Always be aware that you Are able to focus on what you want, and to focus your thoughts on anything at all. Try it now by thinking about the dishes, now change your focus and think about y
11、our car. Switch focus again and think about a dog. It really is that easy to focus on whatever you want to focus on.We all need to learn to set aside time to be used on the one thing we want or need to focus on. Its not a matter of “taking the time” to focus, but more a matter of “making the time”.
12、If we are willing to make the time, we will focus a lot better on whatever it is you want/need to do. You ask me how I can possibly make time to focus with four demanding children, 3 dogs and a new house?Easy, I can stay up for an extra hour when all the kids are in bed and the house is quiet, and M
13、AKE the time to focus on what Im doing with absolutely no distractions at all. Oh, thats right; you work too, so youre too tired to stay up late. How about getting up half an hour early, before the madness at home begins? Before you go to bed, get everything ready for your early morning “focus time”
14、 so that you dont have to run around looking for it when youre half awake. Of course, this means you have to have a plan of action ready beforehand. Decide when you are going to make time, and stick to it like glue. Dont let ANYTHING take you away from that time. Make sure you have everything you ne
15、ed all in one place, a room, or even a corner of a room where you can sit in peace. Unplug the phone, turn off the television, and dont even listen to quiet background music. Whatever happens around you will distract you unless you learn how to focus. Sometimes it seems easier to just go along with
16、these distractions than to focus on the end goal. Remember, if you let yourself go along with the distractions, you are losing sight of your goals. Sharpen your vision of what you want or you WILL be at the mercy of your environment.When you want something you have to decide EXACTLY what it is you w
17、ant. If you dont know what you want, theres no way on earth youre going to be able to focus on it. So you want to pass that driving test that youve taken and failed umpteen times, or you want to pass that really important exam in school. You might want to write a book, or build a website, run your o
18、wn business, be a teacher or any number of different things. The main thing is you have to KNOW thats what you want, and you have to set your aims high and demand yourself to focus on getting it. Once you decide what you want, you have to decide WHY you want it. Visualize yourself in that brand new
19、Mercedes or BMW, or in front of that school desk teaching the kids geography. The vision makes you feel good right? So thats why you want it, it feels good to do what you want to do, be who you want to be and own what you want to own. Visualization is a major part in being able to focus. If you can
20、actually see yourself in the position you want to be in, then its so much easier to focus on the task of getting there.Next thing you have to do is decide how youre going to actually get what you want. What are you willing to sacrifice in the quest to get those great exam grades? What can you do wit
21、hout in order to start up your own business? How can you make your family life happier and more peaceful? Sit back and close your eyes, imagining what it will be like to have what you want in life, and think long and hard about what you can give up so that you can get there. Say you want a new sofa,
22、 but the only way you can get one is if you quit smoking. Envision the sofa, with you and your partner cuddling up on it. What colour is it? Is it big and fluffed up, or is it a small ultra-modern sofa? Focus on the sofa and want it badly enough, you WILL stop smoking so you can get it.These are all
23、 small things and perfectly attainable with a little bit of focus, but what if you want bigger and better things than that? Well then you set goals for yourself. First overcome the exams, once that goal is reached go get that driving licence. Next you get a brand spanking new BMW. Keep setting goals
24、; as soon as you reach the first one, move on to the next, staying focused all the time on what it is you want. Reaching that first goal will give you an incredible boost of confidence, which in turn will make it so much easier to get started on the next goal. The more goals you reach, the more conf
25、idence you will have in yourself and that will fuel the success of the next goal, and the next one after that, until there are endless possibilities for you.Start off by writing down each and every goal you WANT to reach in your lifetime. Then write a daily plan for the goal you want to reach first.
26、 Write the plan before you go to bed at night, it gives your brain time to take it all in and work with it. Its amazing what the brain will do when we are sleeping. Also, writing the plan the night before helps free up that time during the next day so that you can purely sit and focus on the task at
27、 hand. Make the plan a numbered list and cross each item off as you finish it. Youll be amazed at how quickly you get through it this way. Once youve reached the outcome you want, move on to your next goal following the same pattern as before.If you find your thoughts wandering in your “focus time”
28、take a break, write down your thoughts and put them away somewhere for future reference. If you find there are multiple things you can do to attain your goals, figure out which of them is the one most likely to help you get there quickest. Put the others on hold, they may come in useful when youre a
29、iming for that next goal.If you lock your focus, and stick with it for as long as you have to, you WILL succeed. If you stick to one thing, one goal and focus on that, its virtually impossible to not reap the rewards of your actions.ConfidenceBefore we start, please keep one thing in mind; Confidenc
30、e and arrogance are two totally different things. If you confuse the two, you will most certainly become a very unhappy person with very few real friends. Arrogance is NOT a “quality” and it wont help you reach your goals any faster. Confidence in oneself, or the lack thereof is what stops people fr
31、om getting tightly focused on what they want to achieve. That little voice telling them they cant do something is their biggest UN-motivator. What can YOU do to gain confidence?25 tips toward boosting your confidence and self esteem.1. Love Yourself: This can take a bit of practice and looks really
32、funny, but try it, it works. When you wake up, give yourself a great big hug. Do the same when its time for sleep. Youve heard this said a million times before: “How can you expect others to love you if you dont love yourself?” Its true. Practice the morning and evening hugs for 2 weeks, maybe 3 wee
33、ks if youre the stubborn type, and youll see how well it works.2. Look in the mirror: Every time you pass a mirror, look into it and flash your biggest and best smile at yourself. It might feel strange at first, but eventually itll make you feel brilliant about yourself. Tell yourself “Looking good!
34、” or “Wow, I love me!” or similar phrases often enough to actually start believing it.3. Do things that make you feel good:This can be anything from listening to music, trekking in the Andes, doing some volunteer work or even just taking a shower. Anything that gives you a positive feeling about you
35、rself works for this one.4. Listen to YOU:Face it. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself, no matter how many people try to tell you differently. So if your body, mind or gut is telling you something, then take notice of it, and dont worry about what other people may possibly have to say abo
36、ut it.5. Talk to YOU:In times of stress, take a time-out break. Wander into your own mind and have a conversation with yourself about anything at all. Tell yourself how lucky you are to be you, and praise yourself for every good and positive thing you can attribute to yourself.6. Remove negatives:If
37、 anything feels like its dragging you down, get rid of it. If its clutter, tidy up, if its a friend full of negativity explain nicely that you dont really feel up to talking right now. If its your kids acting up, leave the room for a while and so on.7. Surround with positives:Surround yourself with
38、things that bring out good feelings in you. Examples could be things such as happy, upbeat friends, a nice new picture, a new car, an old comfy blanket, candles, pictures of your family, your girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse etc.8. Rumours Die:Did you hear something about somebody who said something ab
39、out somebody else? Drop it! Rumours are nasty, horrible things that will only bring you down. Best way to kill a rumour? Ignore it!9. Total Honesty:Be totally honest with yourself at all times. If theres something you dont like, admit it. If theres something you dont want to do “right now” and it is
40、nt necessary for health and safety reasons then just dont do it until you feel like it. Same goes for the positive aspects. If theres something you want to do, and its not hurting anybody, then go ahead and do it. If you start feeling great about yourself for no apparent reason admit it and enjoy th
41、e feeling.10. ResponsibilityTake full responsibility for your own actions. Dont shove the blame for anything over onto someone or something else. We all make choices in our lives, and once we take responsibility for those choices we tend to choose better for ourselves. Once we start to choose better
42、, we feel better and things start falling into place. On the other hand, dont take over someone elses responsibilities just because you feel “you have to”.11. Pretend:If you feel unsafe, unsure or nervous then go inside yourself and pretend youre a hot-shot lawyer, actor, actress, singer or whatever
43、 you need to be. Make believe youre presenting yourself as that person would until you feel better. Trust me, you WILL feel better, and eventually have no need to be anything but yourself.12. Keep Trying:If youre trying to do something but dont get it right first time round, then try again, and agai
44、n, and again, constantly learning from your mistakes until you get it right. When you finally DO get it right, youll feel wonderful about it.13. Credit where credit is due:If youve done something really good, and people compliment you on it, accept the compliments with thanks! Understand that theyre
45、 complimenting because they really ARE impressed with what youve done. Believe in you and give yourself a pat on the back. (Although physically it would probably be easier to just give yourself a round of applause).14. Stand Tall:Standing up straight will ALWAYS make you feel better about yourself t
46、han slouching does. Stand with your feet slightly apart, suck in your tummy and behind, broaden your shoulders and straighten your neck. Its an amazingly quick confidence boost.15. Say Hello:Make it a rule to say hi to at least one person you dont know EVERY day. Give them the smile you flash at you
47、rself in the mirror, the biggest and best one you can find. Theyll smile back automatically, and theyll walk away with a little extra confidence boost thanks to you. People look their best when they smile, and they also feel better by smiling too! This ultimately means you get a confidence boost too
48、, for making someone else feel good about themselves. 16. Never Say Never.Ever:If you think something cant be done, then youll end up proving yourself right eventually. So never say never, just keep plugging along until it works for you. If other people are telling you it cant be done, youre going t
49、o feel such immense satisfaction at actually doing it that your confidence will soar.17. Get Active:Dont sit around the house just doing nothing. Get up, go out, cycling, walking, exercising, anything that might invigorate your brain. A lively brain full of thoughts will help you gain confidence.18. “Happy Foods”:Happy foods, such as chocolate, strawberries, lemons, ice-cream etc will increase the serotonin levels in your brain, leading to an increased feeling of happiness. Feeling happy is a
